Dating, I feel so guilty about this, please help.

I'm 11 weeks post RNY and down 48 pounds which is great, I feel terrific. Recently I started dating a new guy. He is a big guy which has never been a problem for me before. In fact, generally I am more attracted to bigger men. I just like the way I feel when a big guy wraps his arms around me. The problem is this. We have been on 3 dates, each time he chooses a restaurant that has a buffet. He knows that I have had surgery and eat very little so that is not a big deal. The problem is all mine, I literally get nauseated watching him eat plate after plate piled with food. Now, I am beginning to worry that once my appetite returns his eating behaviour will begin to affect mine. It's easy not to overeat now because I am never hungry, but what happens later? I feel terribly guilty for excluding someone simply because of eating issues because I know how it felt when I was excluded because of my weight. At the same time though, I feel like I have to take care of myself first and know this is not a good enviornment for me to be in. Any Advice?

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