How do I deal with people?

I researched getting a gastric bypass for a year before my surgery (had it March 17, 2003). I have lost 151 pounds and I am still losing. <p> I knew the risks involved with the surgery, I made sure I did. <p> But.... <br> I had certain friends tell me repeatedly, "Do not have the surgery" They would point out all the things that could go wrong, etc. I was also told that I should buck up and diet properly. (Oh but I did, I was on a med that made me gain most of the weight.) <p> I got the surgery, all went pretty well. But then I had the problems of needing to go to the ER when I was getting stoma problems. <p> Then, of course, I developed the big hernia, an ulcer, and my gall bladder might be taken out. (My hernia surgery is on the 2nd of September. <p> Despite the problems, I have no regrets whatsoever, life is a trade off. <p> Those friends are now telling me, "I told you not to have the surgery, I told you so, see where you are now? I tried to warn you, but did you listen? No." <p> It upsets me, and I don't know how to handle these people. I have Borderline Personality Disorder and I tend to respond to things in a whirlwind of emotion. So far, I haven't gone off on these people, simply saying, "I have no regrets." But they keep on pushing. I would love some advice as to how to deal with these people! <p> Hugs,<br> Tracy

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