Husband has

My husband has concerns about the surgery. I have offered to set up an appointment with my surgeon for him to talk to the doctor...I have offered to take him to my nutrional ed classes or group meetings...HE REFUSES ALL OF THIS. I have emailed me lots of information, which he won't read. I have tried talking to him, but he won't tell me what the issue is. He simply says "I don't want you to do this." I have explained WHY I need this over a million times and he says "Those are good reasons" (yeah, i don't need to breathe or walk or anything!) Last night he said "I have concerns, but I'm not going to tell you about them now." He said he's waiting. Well, there are only 22 days left until my surgery. I told him that it is unfair of him to wait until the last minute and then dump everything on me. I got very angry and told him either tell me now or not mention it again. So now, he's not talking to me. Frankly, I don't care. I am sick of this. For nearly 3 years he's complained that he doesn't like this surgery, yet has done NOTHING to learn anything about it. I reminded him of my emergency c-section and how there were all these risks with that...and how this surgery is NOTHING compared to that and he was fine with the c-section. He just ignores my point. Its driving me nuts. Completely, utterly nuts. I want to believe that once I'm out of surgery and doing fine, he'll get over it. But I want him to at least understand why I'm doing this. HELP!! I've tried talking, writing letters, emailing medical information, leaving my surgery information packets where he can find them, stuffing notes in his wallet with little surgery facts on them. Just now, I've emailed him a list of risks and what my doctor will do to prevent it from happening.

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