Is it predjudice or attitude?

I have gone through my entire life as an obese person, and to be sure the worst was grade school when I was targeted on almost a daily basis. By the time I got to high school and finally struck back while I was getting jumped by 3 girls, the daily taunts had stopped. It took me years to realize, however, that the people laughing on the street or in the store were more likely having a conversation than laughing at me. As an adult, I really can't say that I've been subject to much predjudice and I believe that is because of a few things, 1) this country is morbidly obese, we aren't freaks, we're practically the norm; 2) I try to always project attractiveness and confidence - this alone will stop idiots in their tracks; 3) I stopped thinking years ago that I didn't get the job, or my boss hated me, or whatever, because I am fat. Using my weight for a crutch kept me in a shell, unassertive - a door mat really. When I changed my attitude, my life truly began to change: my job got better and I found the strength to get out of a bad marriage. A few 'normal' men even became attrated to me. I stopped identifying my self as FAT, and started seeing all my other positive qualities. I really believe if everyone projected this kind of confidence, we would see a lot less predjudice.

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