When I got married, my husband was

I specifically did NOT marry someone who was overweight because I knew how miserable being fat made me. Anyway, over the last 2 years he has put on at least 120 pounds, bringing him to around 335. I suggest going to the gym with me, walks, blah blah and he refuses. And now with me having this surgery he eats his portion and whatever I don't eat! We have A LOT of problems in our marriage and I've seen a divorce lawyer twice for other issues, but this one is really bothering me. I understand it's hard to lose weight, but am I going to hell for being disgusted by my husband? I guess I was so disgusted by myself...and here he was, NORMAL, and then he gained all that weight. I'm worried for his health, but it also is not attractive. I have no desire to be with him sexually, and with him getting larger it's becoming harder to do so anyway. I feel awful for that, but what can I do? And let me mention that in my 7 months of this weight loss journey he has not once told me that he can tell I'm losing weight or that I look nice. Please do not e-mail me with hate mail, I do not feel this way about other overweight people (I used to be 386). Does anyone else feel this way about their spouse??

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