Is anyone afraid that they will become shallow after losing weight?

My friend who was far from being obese, but still overweight by society's standards got stomach problems that prevented her from eating and lost 60#s 185 down to 125. Now she is totally shallow(only interested in shopping and her new boyfriend who told her if she hadn't lost weight he would not have been attracted to her) and completely rude and judgemental toward others. I am afraid that this will happen to me if I lose weight. I don't want to become self absorbed and insensitive. If I do decide to have surgery, it won't be for social acceptance reasons because I have a great family and a wonderful soulmate to share my life with. I simply want to be able to run or ride a rollercoaster or even fit in an airplane seat to enjoy the life that has been given to me to its fullest. I have been fat my entire life and it has molded me into an independent self confident woman who relies on her intelligence and wit rather than relying on my sexuality or powers of feminine persuasion. I worry that in finding the thin girl underneath I will lose what has made me compassionate and approachable. I am 23 330# and actively researching surgery. Please email me if you would like to at [email protected].

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