As I am getting closer to my surgery date, my husband is starting to

become less supportive of my decision. Up until now he really hasn't said much about the whole situation, but now he is saying that although he is supportive of my decision (because he knows how bad I want this done)he thinks that it is drastic and doesn't think it will work for me. He says that this is just another diet that I won't have the willpower to stick to. I have explained that this is a restrictive procedure and I will not be able to eat like I do now (I explained the whole surgery and recovery and post op diet to him) and he just blows me off or says that the more he learns, the more he is against it. I am really hurt that I can't go to him for the support that I need without being criticized. I do know that he is worried about me leaving him when I lose the weight,(as if I couldn't do that now.) I love him and want my marriage to work but I just can't believe how much of a jerk he is being. I have even tried to get him to come to this site, but he refuses. So what can I do or say to help him come to terms with this? I always reassure him that I don't want to leave him, but that doesn't seem to be enough. I am just really confused and frustrated. If anyone has any experience with this kind of situation, I would appreciate any "words of wisdom".

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