self discovery... saddened by what I've found.

Hi everyone... I just need some insight. Today I was talking to a dear friend (a man). He told me he's happy for me in my weight loss, but that he's always loved me and thought I was beautiful, either heavy or small. He said the change has been like a caterpillar, the cacoon, and the butterfly... except the butterfly flew away, and he misses something very precious and innocent about me. He said now I put a lot of emphasis on what others think of my appearance... more than what he thinks of me. He said, these people noticing you are all new, but i've always been there loving you and thinking you're beautiful, no matter what you think of yourself. He said my inner beauty is what he was so attracted to, and my outer appearance reflected my inner beauty. My concern is this... what have I lost? Have I lost my sense of self and only go by what others think of me? Someone help me please, I really need to get through this one. Thanks to anyone who wishes to reply.

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