My mother thinks that my low self-esteem is not from being overweight?

Please help. My mother thinks that wls is not the answer. She thinks that I eat because of my low self esteem about myself. States that I should solve my problem with my self-esteem and in return weight loss will happen. I eat cause I get bored or sad. I don't know what I will do after I have surg to fill the void, I will cross that hurdle when I come to it. I do know that my self-esteem is at it's all time low because of my weight. I am confident that after my surg once the weight is gone I will feel like a new person again. I see good results in sooo many profiles. How can I get my mother to see it through my (our)eyes? She lives in MI and I live in FL so I can't take her to a support grp meeting. Everytime we talk we always disagrees. I just want her to be happy for me. Not happening. We are both strong willed. I told her to get books and read up on it. However she does not feel like she needs to. States low self-esteem is not a reason for wls. I am having surgery for my health yet my mother disagrees cause currently I have no major life threating health problems.I'm just fat. I have GERD, depression, joint pain, PCOS, urinary incontence and high cholestrol, yet that is not good enough for her. My sisters do have health problems(major)do to obesity and I do not want to wait to get real sick like them.(ie HTN, diabetes type II, Asthma, enlarged heart, and several allergies. I need positive energy now, not negative energy. I want the communication to stay open yet she keeps bringing it up regardless if I tell her not to.

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