HELP!! I'm ready to start beating my head against the wall...

every time I call my Mother, she tells me she is supporting my decision for wls, but then will proceede to try and make me feel guilty and try to talk me out of it. Unfortunaly not talking to her is not an option, and I've tried telling her that i appriciate her imput, and her feelings are important to me, but the negativity is not helping. She wants me to cancel the surgury, go on a long term supervised diet, and have babies. I want to have babies, but my gynecologist says I have to loose first, and if I do get pregnant now, it would cause problems for me and the baby. I've explained this to her as well... I've had major surgury before, and I have my faith. I know I have God going in and holding my hand with me and that He'll come out with me as well, and that if soemthing does happen, then it's my time to go... I've tried explaining to her and my brother that I have a bigger chance of dieing in a car wreck than from wls, and the odds of major compications are the same as being in a car wreck. Her latest comments to try to guilt trip me are "I have a very bad feeling about this... I wish you wouldn't go thru with it...", and when I confront her about it, she tells me she is being supportive then twists it around like I'm making a mountain out of a mole hill, then tries to make it twist around to being my fault and making me feel guilty. I'm nervous enough about having this done without putting up with all the negativity... Add to that, my brother lives with her, and everytime he answers the phone, I spend time dealing with him. He's got the bright idea that if he keeps (literaly) preaching at me, he'll change my mind. That's not going to happen. The other day he told me he didn't believe in it, and was going to pray that God would put a stumbling block in my path to prevent it. I know everyone isn't going to agree with my decision to have this, and frankly it's there opinion. I just want my family to support me. Barring that, I don't need to keep getting negative comments from them. Thank God for my husband and his family. I'd not have gotten this far without support from them. HELP!

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