How to handle friends nagative comments?

Help! I had WLS 06/02 and have lost 104 lbs so far. I have a friend that now has decided she wants to have this surgery. I am very happy for her. I know it will change her life as it has mine. However, she proceeded to tell me that I was a "wuss" when it came to recovery time. I took 4 weeks off work, she said she only plans to take 5 days. She then used all my episodes of puking, dumping, etc., against me. I'm not perfect, but I do try to do what the doctor says to do. She didn't come right out and say it, but she intimated that if I did what the doctor said, I wouldn't be throw-up or dump. I know that she is speaking out of ignorance and that she obviously doesn't know what she's talking about. I haven't puked in over 2 months and I have dumped once when I tried oatmeal (hardly a bad food choice). What really gets me is her holier than thou attitude. There's no need to be jealous of me, she can have the surgery the same as I did. Why does she feel the need to tear me down and negate all my succeses? I'm afraid I'm going to have to let this friendship go. Negativity such as this has no place in my life. Has anyone else had to deal with people like this?

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