How did you deal with someone who treated you invisibly before the surgery?

I'm sure this question will raise alot of hackles but I'm going to ask it anyway. We moved across country due to my husbands promotion to an unfamiliar state and luckily wound up moving to a very nice neighborhood. The schools my dd's go to are excellent (I am so glad about that!). I seem to have problem that really hurts my feelings alot. I had a great support system of family and friends back at home and never had to worry about starting over and making new friends,but unfortunately now I do. But I have noticed that alot of these "mothers" seem to think I'm invisible or something. They love to get all dolled up (no sweats here!) and chat with each other at drop off and pick up time at the schools. I've tried to be friendly and mention that I'm new and try to join in but have gotten a very chilly reception from them. It seems the only one's who are friendly are the ones who aren't "perfect" either.Meaning they are heavy. I've noticed they are ignored also. Now don't get me wrong, I don't lay awake worrying about them. But my question is, has anyone delt with this in the past and what did you do about it? I guess I feel like it's because of my weight that they are behaving so rudely. And truth be told,we know prejudice against fat people is a reality. I guess I feel like these women think that having a fat friend would make them look less than perfect. I DO NOT want to have a friendship with them now,but if the future after WLS they try to strike up a friendship, how should I handle it?I will, in all likelihood, have to deal with them through out my dd's school years unless we move again. I guess I want to show them how it hurts to be snubbed when your only looking for a friend. PS Yes I have befriended some of the "other" mothers. Thanks for any feedback. Connie

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