How do I deal with meals at a family get together?

I haven't had my surgery yet but this has been heavy on my mind. My family love food and get togethers. I do the BBQing and so forth. How can I explain I can't eat that? I so want this surgery to work , I don't want to mess up. Thankyou for your help.

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