What do I do? Or how should I feel?

Okay guys and gals...Here is the problem I have lost 130lbs. This is a wouderful thing! But when I was 267lbs My husband showed me very little love attention. Now that I have lost all this weight he cant keep his hands off me. I feel neglected. And used. I also have no sex drive at this point. Im 10 months out. I have changed in a lot of ways. I never wanted to go out and now well I go to the club every Saturday. I go with my sisters and friends. No guys just us girls. I like the attention. It makes me feel good. I would never go home with any guy and I never do anything that I shouldn't. I dance and that's it. My husband never wanted to go in the beginning but now he wants to go and I really don't want him to because its my time to myself and I feel free from all the home stuff. He plays paint ball but since I show that I don't want him to go with me he doesn't go play paint ball and uses it against me. "Well u went out last weekend and I didn't" He turns everything around. We have been married in May for 9 years. When I tell him I don't want to have sex he makes me feel really bad to the point I give in and then I feel I have done something I didn't want to do. If I don't have an orgasm he says Im not attracted to him and don't love him anymore. This is not true I love my husband and I am still attracted to him but right now mad because I would lay in bed ten months ago and cry because he pushed me away. Now he is all over me and I feel gross! Im now told Im cheating and Im having sex with other people NOT true! Im sick of it! I also had a emergency hysterectomy in November that Im still healing from. At 6 weeks we had sex and I opened back up and Had to go to ER to have fixed. Im still real sore and it hurts most times he don't understand and Im tired of trying to make him understand its tearing up the way I feel about him. I have tried to talk to him have told him how I feel about it all. All he says is Im sorry I make you feel that way but in 10 mins he is trying to have sex with me and I give in. Please help!!!! What do I say or do. How should I feel is this wrong or right? We go to a consular sat for the first time I hope that helps if not I think were domed. We have 2 kids. Thanks. Sorry so long. Celeste You can email me at [email protected]

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