How do I break the news of this surgery to my elderly parents?

Today I went in for pre-op, and Monday I will have this surgery, I have still not found the courage to tell my parents that I am about to undergo this Revision Surgery. I want to tell them, I just am so worried that I will make them worry needlessly, and I don't want to disappoint them, I have been a parent pleaser all my life, and for some reason I feel that this will let them down in someway. I am not scared about the surgery, just worried about letting them down. I am doing this surgery for myself, But can't shake the fear of failure again, I want so desperately to suceed in this attempt to control my life and my weight. My main question is "Why can't I find the simple courage to tell my parents that I am getting ready to do this again?" It's only 5 days and a wake up, I will have them at my home on Saturday for a birthday party for my grandchrildren, (yes i'm no spring chicken, I'm 50 yrs old, I'm just chicken) Should I tell them then? Should I continue to keep quite? Thanksgiving will be the following week, how will I keep it from them at that time? Please what do you think? Help. Sue

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