I'm relunctant to discuss WLS with my Parents

I'm not a child, I'm 42! Both my Mom & Dad are 75. I have chosen to live close to them. Usually they are very supportive. In July I brought the subject up of WLS to my Mom. She wasn't very supportive. My bmi is 38, my brother's is 52. I dropped the subject and I've never brought it to her since, she was facing heart surgery. We live in close proximity. My family is usally very supportive, a few years back I broke both my ankles at the same time, my Dad was there for me in recovery and had my daughter and myself stay with them, they were wonderful. I realize I don't have to discuss it with them "now. At this point I am not scheduled to see the Dr until January, and they are scheduling surgery dates 6-8 wks following consult. I thought of just telling them I would be having abdominal surgery.. but knowing them they'd want all the specifics and look it up in their little Medical encyclopedia- I'm sure my Dad would want to drive me down there and ask the surgeon alot of questions afterwards. I suppose I'm being stupid at not wanting to tell them but I honestly don't want to. I feel I'm being forced to because of the regular closeness we share and proximity. I know, I know I'm an adult.. any suggestions? I thought of just going to the hospital when the day comes and taking a cab back home on release.. but I have a 14 yr old daughter also.. I suppose the reasonable thing to do is tell them.. I'm sorry, I feel so stupid over this..

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