DR told me to keep my weight up lol

I went to see my Surgeon and he told me I look alot better with my few pound weight gain.  He told me to stay between 127-135 instead of 125-130 lol.  I was shocked.  I am now trying to accept that 130 is not fat...isnt that crazy?  I think I am coming a lil bit obsessed.  Any advise on how to deal with this obsessive desire to continue to get smaller even when the DR says u are small enough?  It just never seems enough!!!!!!!!!! 

Not crazy at all..After dozens of years of trying to get skinny and several years of getting used to it after surgery...we all have something like that mentally...I have a hard time wanting to see that number go up but I know it has to if I exercise and add muscle...

Still, when it goes up two pounds and I hit 130 even just for a day, I'm panicked...

Kathleen I can relate entirely.  My surgeon's goal for me was 130 lbs and I've stayed below that for all but about 3 weeks last year.  I like 123-125 but currently I'm at 129 lbs and I feel fat, crazy I know but it's what I feel even though my family keeps telling me I look better here than below 125......who would think that 4-6 lbs would make such a difference in how I feel or what others see me as.

I am really struggling now whether to try to drop five pounds, or let it stay on.  I keep saying to myself to drop it now before it gets ten, then fifteen, but even my ten year old daughter is telling me I do not look sick or frail with the extra five pounds.  I can remember thinking if I could get to 150 I would be so happy, and now I am just stressing over five pounds like it is the end of the world.  My Dr. said I look alot better with the extra bag of sugar lol even.  And I feel so vain and selfish and just stupid.  It is a real inner struggle.  What do you do to deal with it or come to terms with it? 

Hi Kathleen,

Like you I see, I am 5' 1 (okay 5' 1/2") and currently avg 120 pds. I have settled on this weight for the last 9 months. I wil bounce between 117 and 122. I used to get alot of comments about how skinny I am or "you aren't going to loose anymore weight are you?" I got those questions at 140/135 and 130 pds. The questions have tapered off now that they are getting used to my new look and I have re-assured them i am healthy.

It's funny how Dr.'s are different. In the program I am in there are 2 doctors who perform the RNY. One doctor, mine, says he wouldn't worry about my weight unless I starting getting below 95 pds. The other doctor is more conservative, he thinks if you are older (I am 51), being at the high BMI normal range is better.

I finally came to the conclusion that if I listen to my body I will be at the appropriate healthy weight. I am happy with the quantity of food I get to eat. I get to eat a few snacks here and there.And I am happy at the amount of exercise i do, (yoga and pilates). I am not obsessive about eating or exercise. I keep good tabs on my labs, (they are doing great) So I think I have a healthy attitude towards it all.

The key ingredient: Listen to your body and how you feel. But keep healthly!

Kelli