transfer addiction

I am having problems and dont know where to turn....... I am drinking just about every day.. not much but cant seem to get by without one day.... two to four drinks every day....they bad part is that it seems the more I drink they more familiar I am at the bar and the more people buy my drinks....It isnt really they drinks as it is the bar scene that i like....

I know I am asking for trouble but cant seem to stop..... no one knows... if they do they dont say nothing.... I know my husband knows I am drinking,,, but doesnt know how much.....

I know this is pretty common among wls'ers and there are several people here at the Grad's board that are battling this as well. I honestly don't know what the answer is, but I will keep you in my thoughts in hopes that you can come to terms with this situation. Please keep us posted!

Please seek help before you do damage to yourself. This is an illness like any other and getting help to overcome this addiction may be the best way to beat this.

Wishing you all the best.

Sher

Please be careful.............I have heard that this will eventually sabatage your weight loss also. You have came too far.

Transfer addiction is so very common.  Mine is shopping, which def. is not good.  I would suggest going to AA.  I know it seems severe, but by you posting this it shows you are recognizing and ready to deal with the issue.  GOOD FOR YOU.  Alcohol will ruin your WLS and reverse everything you have worked so hard to achieve, but you know that.   It will also ruin your life, BUT YOU ADMIT TO A PROBLEM SO YOU HAVE WON ABOUT HALF THE BATTLE!!!   AA is an AWESOME group of people that will give you the support and encouragement you need.  I know there are specifc AA Meetings for WLS in larger cities.  YOU are NOT alone.    Take one day at a time, and remember you are special!  God Bless and best best wishes to you!

Sounds you may have a couple of things going on here. Transfer addictions are commonly deeply rooted in traumas you may have had in your life. You may need to consult a professional medical source to get to the depth and root of these issues, and this will benefit your wt loss in the long run. Unchecked "issues" often lead to failed wt loss surgeries, cross additctions, etc. I'd also suggest possibly attending AA meetings until you get your issues resolved. I attend support group meetings regularly. There is a professional counselor in one of my support groups who sees RNY patients with cross addiction issues every month. Since the surgery is more common today, the amount of these RNY patients in on the rise. BTW, you're highly likely to end up with a DUI ticket, as the blood alcohol levels are elevated past the legal limit, even though you've come down from a recent "alcohol high".  Please get some help. DAVE

Hi Marie,
Cross addictions are very common for WLS patients. You have just admitted you have a problem so do something about it. Go to AA, get support, also attend a bariatric support group in your area if you have one.
Your cross addiction is alcohol. Mine is exercise, I chose my cross addiction before I had surgery. I have an "addictive personality". My father was an alcoholic, died at 52. I've always stayed away from alcohol, I have that "gene" in my body.
You are not alone. Tell your husband you have been drinking and how much you are drinking. Get his support. Any alcohol in you house? Throw it out today. YOU don't need it.
YOU will start gaining weight if you drink regularly and it's not good for your body.

If you like the bar scene, and you can handle NOT drinking then go, be the designated driver. But right now I think you know YOU can't handle it. What about the bar scene is so great for you anyway? Find an alternative outlet for your social activities besides the bar. Is there a dance hall where you live that doesn't serve alcolhol? Have friends over and play games, go to the movies, for a walk. Skip the bar thing until you have control of your drinking.

I totally understand what you are talking about..... I'm there now!!

check out this site please

http://www.wlscenter.com/alcoholism.htm

Rhonda

yes I have been in your shoes, I to am a Army Spouse. My drinking ot so out of control my butt ended up in a REHAB for 28 days, the greatest thing that could have happened to me. Im 7 yrs post op. if yoou need to talk please feel free to email  me at [email protected] Tri-care paid for my rehab. Get the help you need now before it is to late.


Much Love,
Tara

 To be completely honest, I am very fearful of this taking off in my life as well.  I was a functioning alcoholic by the age of 13 (!!!!!!!) with my dad being an upper-crusty type alcoholic and my mom having untreated bipolar/personality disorder.  I married a man who does not drink, but comes from a strong history of alcoholism and suffers from severe clinical depression.  Ironically, he reminded me of my dad...emotionally detached, cerebellar, "in-control"...I had my bypass because I believed that my obesity was the cause of our marital problems, well, hell...EVERY problem and allowed myself to be the worlds doormat.  Now that I am down almost 200 pounds 3 years out and have discovered that obesity was a symptom not the cause, the disappointment and devastation that my "magical thinking" did not work is too much to bear...my marriage is horrible, I am still left with considerable health problems related to autoimmune disorders and quite honestly, don't have 200 extra pounds of insulation to hide me!  Presently, I have 1 glass of wine (approximately 6-8oz) about 2-3 times a week after work in the evening to calm down to sleep.  I have to negotiate with myself not to dig into it before 7pm or in front of the children and limit it to 1 only.  I know I'm dancing a fine line here and I'm scared to death!  I white-knuckled my sobriety in my early 20's in order to complete grad school and hubby never knew me when I was drinking, God-forbid I'd have been rejected outright!  I don't drink socially, in fact I isolate and draw myself into my little hole and would like to pull the covers over my head and disappear!  Seeing a therapist through EAP on Monday (my choice, not mandated) and taking steps to stop this now!  Prayers and well-wishes coming your way, as trite as this sounds, sometimes knowing that someone cares and understands does help...you're not alone!