Resentment
At one time,I was the same way. l wanted the junk food. l knew that Cheryl could not eat what l could. Then it hit me right between the eyes. l wanted the same things in life that she has. l want to live longer, better. l want to play with my grandchildren without having chest pains or short of breath. l want to exersise. Now that have my head out of the sand, l can't wait till l start my journey. l should get my date for surgery any time now. Live your life as an example in front of him and at some time he will see that he is missing out on the best thing in life. YOU! He will come around. You and your husband are in my prayers.
Thanx for all your support. Even though I really didn't want to hear it, ya'll are right. He rarely ever said anything to me about my weight, at least, not until it became a huge health concern. Even then, it was like, what can we do? He has never complained of me spending the $30,000 for the surgery and he is already planning my plastics. But, I want him to be around for our golden years. I don't want to be alone. His father died at 53, the age he is now. He has always been fatalistic about dying in his 50's, so I think he doesn't think anything he does for his health matters. I have tried to talk to him. I will keep trying. I just want him to try , too.
And, yes, Mel, I think grieving is exactly what I am doing right now. I have heard many times that 6-7 months is a hard time, and now, I agree!
Marilyn
Marilyn
Marilyn
Smoky Mountain Obesity and WLS Support Group
1/17 6:30 LeConte Medical Center
Hey Marilyn, I think we all understand what you're feeling and only want to make sure you stop and think about the situation in totality. If we truly love and care about our spouse or partners, we want them to be healthy and live a long and happy life together. But all we can really do is try to take care of ourselves and try to encourage them to take better care of themselves, and not alienate them. We must try to get them excited about our successes and hopefully they will want to do likewise.
Hang in there gal, it'll all work out!! 
You've been a positive influence for me and others with your replies of encouragement. We're here for ya!! Take care!
You've been a positive influence for me and others with your replies of encouragement. We're here for ya!! Take care! BamaBob54 
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