Anyone else have no sex drive after baby?

I have my 6 wk post partum visit this friday morning and am getting my IUD in!!  I had a 3rd degree tear this time (with my last baby I had a 4th degree tear) and so I told hubby to hold off for at least until my appt this friday.   Well he couldn't hold off any longer and he talked me into it this afternoon.   It was ok, but I am still sore from delivery 6 wks ago.

I hate it because I have NO sex drive and the 6 wks of no sex was great.   It's because I'm on Lexapro, an anti-depressant that has totally killed my sex drive.   This happened with my other 2 babies when I went on meds for PPD (zoloft w/the other 2), no sex drive till I got off the meds.  But it's not like hubby didn't complain and want other things these past 6 wks, but sex is such a chore for me right now.   It's like ok, get it over with honey so I can go to sleep or get on with my life- and I hate it!   I feel bad for hubby and I don't like that i hate sex!  Plus I'm so tired and in "mommy mode" 24/7- don't feel sexy taking care of 3 kids and the house! 

Anyone else like me? lol  

Boy I am really in trouble because I have no interest what-so-ever in sex now and haven't the entire pregnancy. Infact hubby asked me last weekend why I never went through "that phase" of pregnancy where I wanted it all the time. Now I am just giving in in hopes that it'll bring on labor and then I feel guilty!!

Good luck - play it up... tell hubby he needs to work harder for it - flowers, champange, massage - whatever does it for you! lol

I asked my ob about this at my 6 week pp appt and she said it's totally normal.  She said it normally takes close to a year for your hormones and sex drive to come back to pre-pregnancy levels.  She said that if you had a low or no sex drive before getting pregnant then that's what will return.  With that being said I still have no sex drive and Matthew is 14 months old.  I could go for a year without sex I think.  But I've never had a high sex drive.

I see you aren't alone...and though I am only 2wks out from having Isabella..thankfully I have the opposite issue...I want it & can't have it yet.....  I am exhausted, sleep deprived, boobs aweeping, look a mess, and feel really really sexy....i have no idea why.  But I can't wait til the 6wks is up...just hoping its better than it was during pregnancy because it was painful for me to have sex during pregnancy so here's hoping thats better.

Not to mention I had a c-section so I'm not sure if that makes a difference or not...but who knows?  BUt I can feel your pain, because sex was not something I wanted during pregnancy at all!!!  Here's hoping your sex drive comes back with a vengenance.

after i had my daughter vaginally i did it after 2 weeks, after my csection for the twins i waited 3 weeks, lol

i was suppose to wait 6 weeks, but once the bleeding stopped it was a go for me.

if u wanna try y not ask ur doc if its ok as long as u r comfortable

Well with my son I wanted it all the time while pregnant and within 2 weeks after.  This time I have no desire at all which is good since I am on complete pelvic rest.  I do feel for my hubby though b/c I want nothing to do with sex.  I wonder if that means this is a girl.

Jackie 

lets talk about sex! do not continue reading if you dont like the s word LOL!


its dif your meds when I am on meds I have no drive when I say no drive I mean I dont want sex on my own for example I have to put thoughts there, think about things sometimes looking at magazines etc. I know some may frown upon this but anything in that department is discussed between us and we are a couple and get through things as a couple. And do what we have to in order to maintain a healthy relationship also I would say though after a few months I got some "feeling" back. I am on less of a dose now because I am coming out of my PPD and going into just regular depression.

And Anne it hurt me so bad during my pregnancy to do it! and post baby it went back to normal....i kept asking my doc why it hurt he did some tests which all came back okay...so we never got an answer...but it does NOT hurt now!

And Jackie when I was preggo with a boy I wanted it all the time everyday and with Molly I didnt that is weird I wonder if there is a correlation?

 My baby girl is over 19 months old and I have yet to get my sex drive back!  I only do it because my husband gets his feelings hurt if I turn him down so much.   I would rather sleep, talk, go shopping, anything to get me out of sex.  If you find something that works for you please let me know.  I will try it after this baby is done baking (which miraculously was conceived but only because I was drunk when it happened).

I"m with you Malena!   I would much rather sleep or shop.  I also only "do it" for my husband.  I myself, think I could probably do with out for a very, very long time!
My daughter was miraculously conceived on the 1st try!!!!!!   We only "did it" once that month because I couldn't bring myself to do it again the following night.

nursemegan, good to hear that you are coming out of your PPD, it only took my meds about a week to start working and for me to start coming out of my PPD. But before that, I had major anxiety and depression that lasted about a week and that was long enough!!!   Usually the first month is hard for me though and my emotions and hormones take a while to get back to normal.  Thankfully, my hubby went through it with the other 2 and was wonderful this time and I have very supportive parents that helped me through it. It's good to have a strong support system when you have PPD!

I didn't have a sex drive while pregnant either, but before pregnancy it was pretty good for me. I sometimes wanted it more than hubby! LOL So it's been pretty hard for hubby for me to go from wanting it all the time to almost a year now of low or no sex drive (I got pg last July). And it's probably going to be at least 6 more months of this until I get off my meds, poor hubby. But good to know that I'm not alone! I give it to him at least once a week, but I'd fine not doing it at all at this point!! lol

I mean, that's what got us this in this situation in the FIRST PLACE ISN'T IT????!!! LOL That's all I see sex as right now, as a means of getting pregnant and after what I went through with PPD and the demands of a newborn right now, I don't wanna go through it AGAIN!!!! I know one day I'll see it as a way to bond and get closer to hubby, but for right now it's not something I want.