My Mother Has gone crazy......

At our local mall today, there was a Baby and Me fair.  Vendors and community groups set up tables for information, there were give aways and stuff like that.  My BF and I, my parents and my sister (the marketing director at the mall....she had to be there) were all there.  My BF and my dad basically sat in the food court while my sister, mom and I went around to talk vendors, register for give aways and stuff like that. 

Before I go any further, I am glad that my mother is happy I am pregnant.......having said that, I think she has lost her mind.  If I heard her once, I heard her a million times tell these people about her baby or "our" baby.  My mother has always been overbearing, especially with me, but this is not her baby.  It is her granddaughter.  Today she acted like this baby was conceived for her........I'm not sure what this says for the future.  I don't want to fight with her or hurt her feelings, but she is not raising this child, nor is it hers to raise.

I guess my dad told her the other day, if she didn't calm down, she might ruin her chances of seeing the baby.....this came after a discussion of her needing to set up a nursery in her home.  For what????  It will be a long while before this baby leaves my sight.....and she will probably be 4 or 5 before she stays at anyone's house.  She wanted to add a couple things to my registry, for her house...........I'm trying not to make a big deal out of it, but I don't want things to be uncomfortable when this baby is born.  I want these issues out of the way. 

I am dealing with sooooo much.....health wise, BF wise, baby wise.......she needs to put a stop to this......

Sorry to vent, but I am irritated after today's display....

Thanks for listening!!

My MIL calls my baby "her baby" or "our" baby all the time.  it really ****** me off too.

I'm glad to hear that I am not the only one......I was beginning to think I was being a b*tch

There is a great group on babycenter.com called dealing with the inlaws and FOO
I highly suggest you join the group, those ladies are no nonsense and tell it how it is! 

But just make sure your big panties are on if you post, some of those ladies are brutal!

Good luck!

oooh I didnt know about that group! I am so signing up! I thought it was just me who was having some issues with these feelings! Glad im not alone!

 Girl I am totally there with you!! All the vendors for the baby shower keep asking whose baby it is, mine or hers because the baby shower is outrageous. BUT, the part that upsets me the most is that when she found out I was pregnant she didn't want me to have it. She tried to convince me to abort and when I didn't give me in she refused to speak to me and did not want me in the house. I'm 21 and live at home so I had to stay at my grandmother's for a week. I understand exactly where your coming from and i too wish she would back off a little because it hurts me sometimes to think if it was up to her my daughter wouldn't even be in my belly right now. sorry, I just had to let this out somewhere because I have it bottled up, and we had a major argument today :( here's hoping things will get better for all of us!!!!

My mother is the same way.  She wanted to be in the delivery room when I had my son.  I wanted it to be just me and my dh.  Lucky for me I had a c-section and my dh was the only one able to come in.  But, with that being said she has a nursery set up in her house that will probably never be used.  We rarely visit because she is always over at our house.  So there isn't a reason to go over there.  She was over here 2 times yesterday.  I'm at SAHM and she's here at least 3 or 4 times a week.  Let me just warn you it really doesn't get better.  We've had some knock down drag outs on how she thinks I should raise my child.  I mean I guess I could understand it more if I was young and/or single but I'm not.  I'm over 30 and I've been married for 5 years but with my dh for 10 years.  I've finally just had to say look I'll raise Matthew how I see fit. 

My MIL is the same way. She calls the baby 'her Sophie' and talks about how she wants the baby to spend weeks at a time with her. Ummmm, she has a rude awakening coming. She hasnt tried to do the nursery at her house thank goodness! So far I just grin and bare it, but I have told DH that I allready anticipate alot of arguments in the future! Good luck!

Thanks everyone!  It's great to know that I am not alone and that there are others of you dealing with this......thank goodness I don't have a MIL to deal with, too........my BFs mother is in India (she has issues of her own).

My husbands mom and sister and sometimes his dad say its their baby girl....like oh look at "my baby girl" etc I get so sick of it and they post pictures of her on their facebook etc...I am like um excuse me its our daughter and they have no right to do the things they do!

Hopefully everything will work out!