Need to vent big time
I need to vent tonight. I am feeling all sorts of feelings, and need to talk to someone about it. My sponsor has her sister in town and we already talked.
This is going to be a ramble/babble, so bear with me.
My sister fell and hurt her shoulder two nights ago, and has her right arm in a sling. She can't drive. Mom stayed in town to take care of her today, she is going home on Saturday.
I made plans to attend my AA meeting tomorrow morning, and then go to an OA meeting right afterward. I desperately need both meetings right now.
So, my sister calls me to see if I will drive her to her psychiatrist appointment, an hour away from her, right in the middle of both meeting times. When I told her I couldn't, she sounded annoyed and put out. When I can't drive to my therapist, I call and cancel.
When I was in the hospital with my pulmonary embolism, I needed stuff from my apartment, which is 15 minutes from her house, and she had to go to Bingo instead.
Then there's my Mom. When my sister had her blood clots, Mom drove down and stayed with her to help her out. When I had my blood clots, no sign of Mom. Eileen falls and hurts herself, and Mom stays an extra day to take care of her. Every time I called my sister to talk to Mom this week, Mom was busy watching television. Wouldn't be so bad, except she never returned my calls. She asked me to do some research on my laptop for her, and when I called to discuss it with her, she was busy watching television. I stopped inviting her over for coffee, because she couldn't be bothered to come over.
My daughter was in town for three weeks, and not once did my sister, who has a big house and a yard, invite her and the Munchkins over. I have a tiny apartment, and Eileen made sure to be here whenever I had the Munchkins here.
The only time I was invited to my sister's while Mom was in town was to play Scrabble, which I find difficult because my back can't take sitting on a hard chair for very long. Not once did she invite me for a meal with Mom. Yet, she gladly partook of two meals with them here, and one at my ex's house.
Sorry for the rant. I am just feeling all out of sorts tonight.
Hugs,
Trish
This is going to be a ramble/babble, so bear with me.
My sister fell and hurt her shoulder two nights ago, and has her right arm in a sling. She can't drive. Mom stayed in town to take care of her today, she is going home on Saturday.
I made plans to attend my AA meeting tomorrow morning, and then go to an OA meeting right afterward. I desperately need both meetings right now.
So, my sister calls me to see if I will drive her to her psychiatrist appointment, an hour away from her, right in the middle of both meeting times. When I told her I couldn't, she sounded annoyed and put out. When I can't drive to my therapist, I call and cancel.
When I was in the hospital with my pulmonary embolism, I needed stuff from my apartment, which is 15 minutes from her house, and she had to go to Bingo instead.
Then there's my Mom. When my sister had her blood clots, Mom drove down and stayed with her to help her out. When I had my blood clots, no sign of Mom. Eileen falls and hurts herself, and Mom stays an extra day to take care of her. Every time I called my sister to talk to Mom this week, Mom was busy watching television. Wouldn't be so bad, except she never returned my calls. She asked me to do some research on my laptop for her, and when I called to discuss it with her, she was busy watching television. I stopped inviting her over for coffee, because she couldn't be bothered to come over.
My daughter was in town for three weeks, and not once did my sister, who has a big house and a yard, invite her and the Munchkins over. I have a tiny apartment, and Eileen made sure to be here whenever I had the Munchkins here.
The only time I was invited to my sister's while Mom was in town was to play Scrabble, which I find difficult because my back can't take sitting on a hard chair for very long. Not once did she invite me for a meal with Mom. Yet, she gladly partook of two meals with them here, and one at my ex's house.
Sorry for the rant. I am just feeling all out of sorts tonight.
Hugs,
Trish
Seek always to do some good, somewhere. Every man has to seek in his own way to realize his true worth. You must give some time to your fellow man. For remember, you don't live in a world all your own. Your brothers are here too.
Albert Schweitzer
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Trish
Take care of yourself - it's just as important for you to go to the AA and OA meetings as it is for your sister to go to her psychiatrist. You're working to get your head together too. I suggest that you kindly let her know that you can't take care of others until you take care of yourself. She can always call a friend or a taxi cab, or reschedule her appointment.
One of the first steps in your enpowerment is to know what you can and cannot do, and you cannot do it all. So do what's most important first.
Take Care,
Take care of yourself - it's just as important for you to go to the AA and OA meetings as it is for your sister to go to her psychiatrist. You're working to get your head together too. I suggest that you kindly let her know that you can't take care of others until you take care of yourself. She can always call a friend or a taxi cab, or reschedule her appointment.
One of the first steps in your enpowerment is to know what you can and cannot do, and you cannot do it all. So do what's most important first.
Take Care,
Eliza
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Consult:239 SW:217 1mo:195 2mo:182 3mo:169 6mo:139 9mo GOAL CW: +2 from underweight
Annette 
Patricia....we all care very much about you.
You are not the only one to vent here...... we all do!
We have each other to bounce things off when we need to vent.
I hope today is a great day for you....if not here we are!!
Family can wear us down sometimes believe me I know!!!
I think you handled it well.
Hugs and love....connie d
You are not the only one to vent here...... we all do!
We have each other to bounce things off when we need to vent.
I hope today is a great day for you....if not here we are!!
Family can wear us down sometimes believe me I know!!!
I think you handled it well.
Hugs and love....connie d
Trish:
As I was first scanning down your post and saw "Eileen" ... I thought, "why is she writing about me? ... So few people named Eileen in this world ... Then I read the whole post.. ... oh, she has a sister named Eileen! Light goes on.
Yeah, we all have these family issues. I have had more than once to confront my mom over these things. My older brother thinks because I'm the "baby" I get special treatment ... well,not really. I know I'm a big disappointment because I didn't turn out like she wanted (no family, no hubby, no kids).
You handled it the right way ... you stood up for yourself. Good for you. We addicts (food, alcohol, whatever) often stuff our emotions and don't let it out toward the people who are bothering us. You at least told your sister no, I can't. I have plans. You took care of you. I applaud your efforts.
As for the rant, I applaud that, too. We need to let loose at times.
As I was first scanning down your post and saw "Eileen" ... I thought, "why is she writing about me? ... So few people named Eileen in this world ... Then I read the whole post.. ... oh, she has a sister named Eileen! Light goes on.
Yeah, we all have these family issues. I have had more than once to confront my mom over these things. My older brother thinks because I'm the "baby" I get special treatment ... well,not really. I know I'm a big disappointment because I didn't turn out like she wanted (no family, no hubby, no kids).
You handled it the right way ... you stood up for yourself. Good for you. We addicts (food, alcohol, whatever) often stuff our emotions and don't let it out toward the people who are bothering us. You at least told your sister no, I can't. I have plans. You took care of you. I applaud your efforts.
As for the rant, I applaud that, too. We need to let loose at times.
Oh my dear...you have all the right to rant and all the room....right here. If there is one thing I cannot abide, it is unfairness. And wow from family? Too much and you wite adictions and little ones and small living quarters... There, I am raving for you!!! So...to get more spiritual about this ...give it to God. And... this is important, I use it all the time, this situation involves their "stuff" not yours, so like I said let it go... bless you and your munchkins ...luv Sam
Trish now is the time to put yourself first and probably for the first time in your life.
Don't be a doormat anymore. AA and OA is important for you because you said yourself you need it. Continue to set up boundaries with your family, don't let them take advantage of you anymore.
Your changing, you deserve the best and right now your family isn't giving YOU the best are they?
Time for you to make new friends and find a strong support system. Right now your family isn't your strongest support system.
Look back in your life...your family knew you would just do their request without question. You put yourself in second place. I say no longer!!! You put yourself first. Take care of your needs first. Hold your head up high and keep looking forward, not backwards.
Hugs Trish, I think you are doing great especially knowing you need AA and OA. Debbie
Don't be a doormat anymore. AA and OA is important for you because you said yourself you need it. Continue to set up boundaries with your family, don't let them take advantage of you anymore.
Your changing, you deserve the best and right now your family isn't giving YOU the best are they?
Time for you to make new friends and find a strong support system. Right now your family isn't your strongest support system.
Look back in your life...your family knew you would just do their request without question. You put yourself in second place. I say no longer!!! You put yourself first. Take care of your needs first. Hold your head up high and keep looking forward, not backwards.
Hugs Trish, I think you are doing great especially knowing you need AA and OA. Debbie
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