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Bev, I am so sorry about the issue with your DIL. My DIL is often very stand-offish, and only speaks to me when I ask a question, but she isn't mean to me. They've been married 16 yrs....have no children because they can't, and won't adopt. Now she has MS. I always tell her I love her and she responds,but that's about it. Sometimes when we do things together (just the 2 of us) we have a really good time, so maybe she's jealous of the relationship I have with my son.
Take care and you are wise in letting God take this from you....He will give you peace.
Love,
Pat
Take care and you are wise in letting God take this from you....He will give you peace.
Love,
Pat
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Bev, my heart goes out to you. I know it won't help, but the grandkids know what is in your heart. I had a dil like that.
My grandaughter is now 14 & wants to live with us. Her parents are divorced. Of course it won't happen, her dad, my son is still a big part of her life. He drives 280 miles on his friday & the same on sunday. I think the only times hhe has missed were when the weather was so bad. Maybe 3 times in 13 years.
It will be very sad when the kids bring that up as they grow up!You know the funny thing is, I am stricter than her mom. She tells me at least I will listen, even if I don't agree with her. I keep praying for you & family for things to get better.Just remember kids are very smart.
Nan
My grandaughter is now 14 & wants to live with us. Her parents are divorced. Of course it won't happen, her dad, my son is still a big part of her life. He drives 280 miles on his friday & the same on sunday. I think the only times hhe has missed were when the weather was so bad. Maybe 3 times in 13 years.
It will be very sad when the kids bring that up as they grow up!You know the funny thing is, I am stricter than her mom. She tells me at least I will listen, even if I don't agree with her. I keep praying for you & family for things to get better.Just remember kids are very smart.
Nan
Bev,
I can so relate to your situation with the DIL and sadly for a long time I really tried looking the other way for the sake of my grandchildren, but a recent turn of events has me barely speaking to my son and certainly not his wife, I did like her initially, then they got married and things changed, after the children came, it changed some more and more recently it has gotten to a point where I'd rather have root canal than deal with being around them and my son is angry with me to boot, he feels I am not around as much as I should want to be and I have a hard time with it, as no matter what I do it will never be enough, it is about her family and ours be damned and quite frankly I'm too old and not wanting to constantly have to go the distance. I understand that a son is a son until he takes a wife, but this has just gone too far. I am very busy with all that I am involved in, which my son resents as while he thinks it great I have such a life, he makes statements about how busy I am doing too much, etc., but that is how I am, I like to be active and most of what I do gives me a sense of connectedness to people and I am a very social being.
Anyway, you are right, you have every right to not have to deal with these sort of stressors and given your cir****tances, you would think that she would be kinder and want you there more. It seems this generation has no real heart, it's all about them and what they want, they think, etc.
Remember the song, He's Not Heavy, He's My Brother. . . well Bev, you are a Sister here and this is the place where we support one another, never think burden. . . hugs
Wishing you peace, Laureen
I can so relate to your situation with the DIL and sadly for a long time I really tried looking the other way for the sake of my grandchildren, but a recent turn of events has me barely speaking to my son and certainly not his wife, I did like her initially, then they got married and things changed, after the children came, it changed some more and more recently it has gotten to a point where I'd rather have root canal than deal with being around them and my son is angry with me to boot, he feels I am not around as much as I should want to be and I have a hard time with it, as no matter what I do it will never be enough, it is about her family and ours be damned and quite frankly I'm too old and not wanting to constantly have to go the distance. I understand that a son is a son until he takes a wife, but this has just gone too far. I am very busy with all that I am involved in, which my son resents as while he thinks it great I have such a life, he makes statements about how busy I am doing too much, etc., but that is how I am, I like to be active and most of what I do gives me a sense of connectedness to people and I am a very social being.
Anyway, you are right, you have every right to not have to deal with these sort of stressors and given your cir****tances, you would think that she would be kinder and want you there more. It seems this generation has no real heart, it's all about them and what they want, they think, etc.
Remember the song, He's Not Heavy, He's My Brother. . . well Bev, you are a Sister here and this is the place where we support one another, never think burden. . . hugs
Wishing you peace, Laureen
My Mantra is that I do not determine my success by the number hanging in my closet, nor will I let the scale determine that success either. . . It is through trial and error I will continue to grow and succeed. . . Laureen
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