I had a lovely surprise today!

Hello, everyone.

As you know I've been going through a rather rough time...overwhelmed with stress, yes, self-ionflicted according to hubby, dealing with the responsibility of setting up an entire Wellness Show by myself..fifty vendors all needing specific conditions for their own tables and much more which I have been handling rather well.  However, the sudden death of my Mother (yes, Mom was almost 92 but I still wasn't ready to say goodbye despite our past bumpy relationship until two years ago) while we were away.

And now the complications which mean Mom still hasn't been buried and now we wait until the Veteran's area where Dad is buried has dried up..the grounds are super-saturated from all the rain. 

I had been hurting physically from serious back aches the last few weeks until I finally realized that I'd been carrying a huge burden for sixteen years (taking care of my Mother and dealing with my sister who was not only an alcoholic but a drug addict and was emotionally manipulating my Mother for money until Mom was almost bankrupt).

Within twenty minutes of that realization, the horrible back ache suddenly disappeared.  Being a Life Coach, I had studied how the emotional weight and stress can actually manifest itself into REAL physical pain. And so it had, until I became CONSCIOUS of the way the subconcious mind can manipulate the body into creating a very REAL pain to distract the mind from feeling the emotional burden.  Amazing how our minds work!

But the bottom line of my story is what happened TODAY.

After days of poor sleep, never more than two hours and being unable to stay asleep, only to waken and start thinking, I was finally so tired that I'd slept for 12 hours and got up late this afternoon. JB had let me sleep as I didnt have any appntments to keep today but had a big event to attend at 6:30 out of town.

I went into the kitchen and there sat a vase with TWELVE RED ROSES!!!  Now JB is NOT a romantic man nor does he emit much emotion. But his words were "I thought that you needed some morale boasting".  OMG was I ever shocked! The roses are stunning, deep red and fragrant. 

We had recently hit our 41st wedding anniversary on April 17th, a week after Mom had passed away and I had noted at that time that we actually hadn't killed each other yet...been close but never quite finished each other off...lol! And then he gives me roses! 

I guess, even after forty-one years, you can still never take things for granted. *s*

Nancy B

Wow, what a nice surprise. Mazel Tov on the 41 years! That's quite an accomplishment. Glad you figured out the back pain and it's gone. Hope everything gets better soon.
Jan

Thank you, Jan...yes..my son told me recently, that of all his friends, he is the ONLY one whose parents are still together!

 

Nancy,

What a lovely surprise, guess even an "old dawg" can surprise you sometimes ;) 

Also happy for your realization about being burdened and letting it go some, as I learned many years ago, pain is a definite indication of a spiritual malady manifesting itself to let us know something needs to be changed, I, too, have stuff to deal with to make my load lighter. . . .  glad you had sleep and it was restful. 

Hugs, Laureen

lol..I was shocked! I said "Who are you and what did you do with my husband??"

When I took a very heavy duty course for my certification, I studied JOHN SARNO and learned so much about how the subconscious works and how most of our physical pains and aches are emotionally-based.  It certainly helps me to put things into perspective.

*hugs*

Oh Nancy, beautiful posting. Yes the men in our lives can still shock us, even after all the YEARS together.
You resemble the roses, Nancy. STUNNING, DEEPLY COLORED IN YOUR COMMITTMENTS, and FRAGRANT with life.
Glad you found emotional and physical relief. Also sleep is restores us.
Hugs, Monica

aw gee, Monica!!  You are TOO very kind!

Yes, sleep works *hugs*...so proud of YOU, lady!!

Hugs Nancy B.
Glad you came to an "aha moment" about your mom and sister. Heavy burdens to carry that is for sure. How wonderful that hubby of 41 years understood your emotions. Wow, give that man a hug! Congrats on your 41 years of staying together. Good luck on your Wellness show. I'm sure everything will be just fine with that! Hang in there, look forward not back.

You will miss your mom, we all need our mom's. I miss mine and we didn't have the greatest relationship but worked through a lot of stuff while she was actively dying of esophageal cancer. I was glad I took care of her at the end stage of her life. Hugs Debbie

A lovely surprise for a lovely lady!  So glad you had a little boost!  You surely needed it.  Hang in there, Nancy.  You're a strong lady. 

(((Nancy))) you and your posts always amaze me!!! Always so full of everything...congrats on 41 years and glad that you got rid of the pain!!

HUGS