OT: Just my opinion and feelings on what is happening. . .
I'm new to this WLS over 50 board, am usually just cruising around on MB, RNY and offering support.
People that post sometimes can be mean. My mom use to tell me if you can't say something nice than keep your mouth shut. I've followed that rule most of my life. "catching more bee's with honey" type thing. I'm true to myself and try to live the most productive happy life possible. I'm a happy person to begin with, even when I was fat. I was never ashamed.
People that have to knock someone else down to build up themselves have lots of issues.
Some people feel that they can have a "free for all" posting because they really don't know you.
Some people honestly are nice people and want to give support to you in your time of need.
Let all of the "other stuff" go...start over, wipe the slate clean.
Be that support for each other. We all need each other. Most important thing is to love yourself.
Here's something for everyone to think about...it was given to me today at a CEO Forum (I work at a hospital)
I will take time despite my busyness to slow down and know that there is another reality being served in all that I do. My hands, my efforts and my intentions all contribute to a healing and a deeper reality. My work and my life take on a deeper meaning and everyone is better served.
People that post sometimes can be mean. My mom use to tell me if you can't say something nice than keep your mouth shut. I've followed that rule most of my life. "catching more bee's with honey" type thing. I'm true to myself and try to live the most productive happy life possible. I'm a happy person to begin with, even when I was fat. I was never ashamed.
People that have to knock someone else down to build up themselves have lots of issues.
Some people feel that they can have a "free for all" posting because they really don't know you.
Some people honestly are nice people and want to give support to you in your time of need.
Let all of the "other stuff" go...start over, wipe the slate clean.
Be that support for each other. We all need each other. Most important thing is to love yourself.
Here's something for everyone to think about...it was given to me today at a CEO Forum (I work at a hospital)
I will take time despite my busyness to slow down and know that there is another reality being served in all that I do. My hands, my efforts and my intentions all contribute to a healing and a deeper reality. My work and my life take on a deeper meaning and everyone is better served.
Thank you DebbieJean,
I love what you added to this post!
I've said it before and I'll repeat it again, this venue is not a great one for expressing things at times, on any given day, our realities and perceptions can be off and things can be misread, misunderstood, giving way to hurt feelings, but it is always about respecting ones thoughts, whether or not we agree with them, the greater good of all is best served through understanding, rather than being understood. Many of us, have deep hurts residing inside, those wounds get touched and it sets off a reaction, let there be actions of love and kindness, rather than censorship and judgment!
Love, Laureen
My Mantra is that I do not determine my success by the number hanging in my closet, nor will I let the scale determine that success either. . . It is through trial and error I will continue to grow and succeed. . . Laureen
"Success is a journey, not a destination." Ben Sweetland
Right on Laureen!!!
I don't understand why people feel the need to hurt others? Someone famous once said that "the pen is mightier than the sword" which is soooo true. Words can wound deeply. Many come here for comradery and moral support. If you can't say something nice then don't say anything at all! If you are having a bad day, it isn't too cool to attack others in an attempt to make yourself feel better. A few like to di**** out but can't take it ... maybe they don't realize how they "sound" to others?
I don't know why we can't just all get along?
I don't understand why people feel the need to hurt others? Someone famous once said that "the pen is mightier than the sword" which is soooo true. Words can wound deeply. Many come here for comradery and moral support. If you can't say something nice then don't say anything at all! If you are having a bad day, it isn't too cool to attack others in an attempt to make yourself feel better. A few like to di**** out but can't take it ... maybe they don't realize how they "sound" to others?
I don't know why we can't just all get along?
I'M AT GOAL! Ya know, I think I really really really love this board!! (Ha, now does that sound like Sally Feilds accepting her award???!!!)
I love being over 50, life is great. I'm so comfortable in my own skin now and enjoy getting older but I'm really not old...it's just a number. We are woman, hear us roar!!
I love being over 50, life is great. I'm so comfortable in my own skin now and enjoy getting older but I'm really not old...it's just a number. We are woman, hear us roar!!
Laureen,
You said it so well. There have been times someone has said something that has ticked me off, and I could have said something back, but I chose not to, because it really wasn't worth it. Sometimes I wrote it out and then deleted it all. I got it out of my system. It wasn't worth the pain they caused me to cause more pain.
We all have had our feelings hurt by words ... I make my living with words, and I know how powerful they can be. I was obese most of my life, and I heard the hurtful words, saw them in print -- you know the ones, fatty, fat lazy broad, etc. I learned to put up with them by ignoring them and not letting them get to me, but inside, I cried all the time. I always said I would never do that to another person. So I try not to. Maybe I don't always succeed. I'm not perfect. I don't like everyone I meet ... no one does. But I try to respect their opinions and their right to that opinion.
If you don't like someone, just ignore them. You don't have to make rude comments or send hateful mail. No one is going to like everyone. Be adults. Respect everyone like you want to be respected.
You said it so well. There have been times someone has said something that has ticked me off, and I could have said something back, but I chose not to, because it really wasn't worth it. Sometimes I wrote it out and then deleted it all. I got it out of my system. It wasn't worth the pain they caused me to cause more pain.
We all have had our feelings hurt by words ... I make my living with words, and I know how powerful they can be. I was obese most of my life, and I heard the hurtful words, saw them in print -- you know the ones, fatty, fat lazy broad, etc. I learned to put up with them by ignoring them and not letting them get to me, but inside, I cried all the time. I always said I would never do that to another person. So I try not to. Maybe I don't always succeed. I'm not perfect. I don't like everyone I meet ... no one does. But I try to respect their opinions and their right to that opinion.
If you don't like someone, just ignore them. You don't have to make rude comments or send hateful mail. No one is going to like everyone. Be adults. Respect everyone like you want to be respected.
That is my point and if you are one of those asses who is sending Darlene the hate mail, why bring me into it? That is why I am even in this mess is because I have been wrongly brought into the box thing and Darlene wrongly brought into the religion thing, which, by the way, is me. I am the non-believer who gets tired of all the religious crap. I, too, ignore that part of this board, but that doesn't mean I am not deserving of my opinion from time to time.
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