Support & an agreement

Ok so my wife and I talked last night about this whole thing.  She doesn't want me to rush into anything and she's not 100% on board with me having the surgury.  She wants me to work out for a couple of months seriously and see if I can get my weight down. I agreed.  I need to give myself 2 months of seriously working out to see what I can lose and if I am not happy with the results then I can do the surgury.  I think that is fair.  She said she will support me in what ever decision I make and will never tell me not to do something. So that was cool.  I'm glad we talked about it and I feel better.  So I really work out hard January and February and then possibly have the surgury at the end of March.  I really want permanent weight loss and know that even if I was able to lose 100 lbs (not that I've ever been even close before) that it could come right back on.  On the plus side we just made it through a really stressful time of having a 3rd baby and getting him to start sleeping throght the night.  But now I am working out again and feeling better about myself.

That's great news! And an even better plus is that if you get yourself toned up you'll go into the surgery in better shape to have uneventful experience and a quicker recovery. I'm happy for both of you. Doug

That sounds like a great resolution, and the surgical option is there when and if you need it. CB

Congratulations.......glad you and your wife came to an agreement.  Good Luck on your workouts.  And if it comes to surgery, we will keep a place warm for you on the Loser's Bench

Here's the question though, Jack: Two months from now, the WORK OUT results aren't enough to change your mind about wanting WLS.  Will the wife be on board then? I'd be curous to know.

Good Q she says she will support what ever decision I make.  But I could easily see her saying, just go another month and so on.  So we will see. 

I'd say another discussion is in order.

I am so glad that you were able to talk with her and let her know what you are feeling. The best way to have a good relationship is open communication. I wish you the best.

Does your surgery team hold pre-op information/Q&A sessions?  Mine does--in fact, one of the requirements is to attend two of the sessions, but they also recommend that your spouse/SO attend one with you. As you were describing your wife's reaction, I thought that maybe she really didn't understand the what's and why's of WLS (which is not unexpected--we were all in the same situation ourselves.)  I think a bit of hard information coming from medical sources should help her understand what you're getting into. I'm glad to hear that things have resolved well for the both of you! /Steve