Let's learn a new word: "Schadenfreude"
scha·den·freu·de
[shahd-n-froi-duh] noun satisfaction or pleasure felt at someone else's misfortune.
schadenfreude
"malicious joy in the misfortunes of others," 1922, from Ger., lit."damage-joy," from schaden "damage, harm, injury" (seescathe) + freude, from O.H.G. frewida "joy," from fro "happy,"lit. "hopping for joy," from P.Gmc. *frawa- (see frolic).
There's no reason, other than plain, unadulterated cruelty, to relish the occurrence of someone having a band failure - or any other surgery failure or trouble in general. It's just mean and more than a little pathetic.
If you are finding your happiness at the misfortune of someone else, just stop it. YOU could be next.
Banded 10 years & maintaining my weight loss!! Any questions, message me.
Marylmcd
Every few days there is a question posted here about left shoulder pain or abdominal discomfort, etc. Are you saying that I should NOT answer those questions for fear of giving newly banded people "chronic paranoia?"
When I had my lapband surgery 9 years ago, I was the first one in my area to have it done. There was very little information about it and I was on my own. I came out of surgery with immense left shoulder pain... that didn't go away... and got worse and worse. I asked EVERYONE who even remotely knew a thing about human anatomy to help me. I went through hell, absolute hell. The pain was ungodly, but I also felt horribly alone and helpless. No one in my support group knew what I was talking about. ****il later when a dozen or so other people got bands and experienced the same pain.)
So, I had to advocate for myself. I had to read books and search the internet in an attempt to at least understand what was happening to my body. BUT I shouldn't share this information with a person who is going through it for fear of upsetting newly banded people? The referred left shoulder pain is incredibly common with lapbanding. And yet, so few doctors divulge this consequence. As is evidenced by the sheer number of posts by people who have NO idea what is causing this.
Being HONEST IS being "nice" in my opinion. I'd rather have someone be straightforward and honest than "nice" when it comes to matters of health. I'm not writing this angrily, even though it may come across that way over a computer screen. I just don't understand why anyone would want to NOT know about the possible consequences. It might save your life down the road.
When I had my lapband surgery 9 years ago, I was the first one in my area to have it done. There was very little information about it and I was on my own. I came out of surgery with immense left shoulder pain... that didn't go away... and got worse and worse. I asked EVERYONE who even remotely knew a thing about human anatomy to help me. I went through hell, absolute hell. The pain was ungodly, but I also felt horribly alone and helpless. No one in my support group knew what I was talking about. ****il later when a dozen or so other people got bands and experienced the same pain.)
So, I had to advocate for myself. I had to read books and search the internet in an attempt to at least understand what was happening to my body. BUT I shouldn't share this information with a person who is going through it for fear of upsetting newly banded people? The referred left shoulder pain is incredibly common with lapbanding. And yet, so few doctors divulge this consequence. As is evidenced by the sheer number of posts by people who have NO idea what is causing this.
Being HONEST IS being "nice" in my opinion. I'd rather have someone be straightforward and honest than "nice" when it comes to matters of health. I'm not writing this angrily, even though it may come across that way over a computer screen. I just don't understand why anyone would want to NOT know about the possible consequences. It might save your life down the road.
Avoid kemmerling, Green Bay, WI
There is nothing wrong with being honest about what you have gone through in "your banded experience". What seems to be not so nice is telling everyone that "your band will eventually fail you" when there is actually no factual evidence for the comment! Everyone has different experiences in their weight loss journey and some do not follow all the guidelines. This does not mean that because it hasn't worked for them it now can't possibly work for EVERYONE!! If someone asks a question there is nothing wrong with answering it however starting a post to simply say "your band will eventually fail you" is irresponsible!
On February 24, 2012 at 9:51 AM Pacific Time, nertz mcdoodles wrote:
Every few days there is a question posted here about left shoulder pain or abdominal discomfort, etc. Are you saying that I should NOT answer those questions for fear of giving newly banded people "chronic paranoia?" When I had my lapband surgery 9 years ago, I was the first one in my area to have it done. There was very little information about it and I was on my own. I came out of surgery with immense left shoulder pain... that didn't go away... and got worse and worse. I asked EVERYONE who even remotely knew a thing about human anatomy to help me. I went through hell, absolute hell. The pain was ungodly, but I also felt horribly alone and helpless. No one in my support group knew what I was talking about. ****il later when a dozen or so other people got bands and experienced the same pain.)
So, I had to advocate for myself. I had to read books and search the internet in an attempt to at least understand what was happening to my body. BUT I shouldn't share this information with a person who is going through it for fear of upsetting newly banded people? The referred left shoulder pain is incredibly common with lapbanding. And yet, so few doctors divulge this consequence. As is evidenced by the sheer number of posts by people who have NO idea what is causing this.
Being HONEST IS being "nice" in my opinion. I'd rather have someone be straightforward and honest than "nice" when it comes to matters of health. I'm not writing this angrily, even though it may come across that way over a computer screen. I just don't understand why anyone would want to NOT know about the possible consequences. It might save your life down the road.
On February 24, 2012 at 10:22 AM Pacific Time, steelerfan1 wrote:
On February 24, 2012 at 9:51 AM Pacific Time, nertz mcdoodles wrote:
Every few days there is a question posted here about left shoulder pain or abdominal discomfort, etc. Are you saying that I should NOT answer those questions for fear of giving newly banded people "chronic paranoia?" When I had my lapband surgery 9 years ago, I was the first one in my area to have it done. There was very little information about it and I was on my own. I came out of surgery with immense left shoulder pain... that didn't go away... and got worse and worse. I asked EVERYONE who even remotely knew a thing about human anatomy to help me. I went through hell, absolute hell. The pain was ungodly, but I also felt horribly alone and helpless. No one in my support group knew what I was talking about. ****il later when a dozen or so other people got bands and experienced the same pain.)
So, I had to advocate for myself. I had to read books and search the internet in an attempt to at least understand what was happening to my body. BUT I shouldn't share this information with a person who is going through it for fear of upsetting newly banded people? The referred left shoulder pain is incredibly common with lapbanding. And yet, so few doctors divulge this consequence. As is evidenced by the sheer number of posts by people who have NO idea what is causing this.
Being HONEST IS being "nice" in my opinion. I'd rather have someone be straightforward and honest than "nice" when it comes to matters of health. I'm not writing this angrily, even though it may come across that way over a computer screen. I just don't understand why anyone would want to NOT know about the possible consequences. It might save your life down the road.
~no there is a difference of telling your story and your problems , what she is talking about is people coming out and saying your band is going to fail you , or I wish you typical band stats. I find that very cold and very offensive to wish that on anybody .~
Well let me ask you a question.......... Since you think the band is so wonderful then why would you object to someone wishing another bandster typical band stats. If the band is as great as you claim..........then wouldn't that be a good thing??? :-)
On February 26, 2012 at 12:18 PM Pacific Time, steelerfan1 wrote:
Maria, You know damn well when you say that you mean typical bad stats. People that read your comments on here are not stupid people we all know what you mean by that so dont try to play this off .
Steelerfan,
You know damn well when you say that you the band is so wonderfuland awesome that YOU think the band stats are as well. So YOU should take it as a good thing. Right? :-)
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