wayyyy off topic.

What the hell is wrong with all the gay men I have met. Is monogomy so wrong? Is romance a pipedream in the gay mens community? WHy can't guys be goodlooking and emotionally open at the same time? Gawd I swear it might have been eaiser to stay dating women and remained a closet case I am so dissapointed with what is out there. I can't seem to meet anyone worth a **** and when I think I have found a good guy, bam he ends up being just like the rest....... I think boys are only good for one thing- throwing rocks at thanks for letting me vent yall

Hi Rory~ Nice to see you! You sound just like my best friend. He is 42 and cant seem to find the "right one". Hang in there.. when it's time, the right one will come along. In the mean time, continue to throw rocks at the bad ones. Kay

I thought all they were good for was lifting heavy objects. All kidding aside, there are some good ones out there, you just have to look in the right places. Don't give up. XOXOXO, Sharyn

Welcome to the fun and challenging world of male homosexuality. I've met lots of good guys, but also loads of drama queens, drug addicts, bareback disease queens, and other assorted losers. No different than the str8 world.

I hear you loud and clear my friend. Same sad story I've been going through forever! Ugh. Men suck. Gay men are NOT my favorite people for the most part. Shallow, vain and mean. And those are the good points! Its enough to make a guy give up. Almost!

Boy oh boy...do I have comments about this topic... It would probably be better though if I put it into a private e-mail....lol. Rory, I think that you just haven't met the right person. For years, I thought that the right person would come...and instead...it was always mr. right now.... They seemed to be great guys...and then i woke up..so to speak. Gay men aren't inculturated to know how to date, fall in love, etc... Sadly, we come from a society, that says that in gay man terms...it is sex first and then hopefully a relationship. In straight life...it is generally a relationship and then sex. Rory, when the time is right...and we have no say in that...the right person will come along...and WOW!!! It will be incredible. What I assumed would be just another one-nighter has turned into almost seven years of a relationship. We have a better relationship then most straights... We have goals, finances, etc.. We don't work on us...we are us... Just know that it is possible..it just finds the right person...

Rory, Sorry to hear about the men problems. I am going to tell you something my mom use to tell me. STOP LOOKING, my mom told me many years ago stop looking to find someone. The right person could be right up under your nose and you might not know it. I took her advise and needless to say, my g/f and I have been together now for almost six years. I really hope that things get better for you. Melissa

Hi, I don't post too often so you may not remember me. The sad thing about most gay men is that they just want sex first. Everything with them is instant sex and instant attraction and right now no matter where or when or with or without protection. I am sorry that you keep meeting the wrong man. It is very hard to find a good man gay or straight but you have to be positive and not give in to temptation. Keep your stuff in your pants that is the safest way. Stop looking and let them find you. I have been in the same boat with my partners. I was married last April and my hersband was a drunk - my mother sent her to the rehab and I stood by her just for her to relapse in April and starting smoking weed. She wanted to stay out and get drunk because she didn't want to agrue. This isn't healtly and I had thoughts of really physically hurting her while she was sleep ........ It hurt too bad and their wasn't anything I could say to make her understand . Needless to say I kicked her out in the Beginning of May and I am now dating a man after 14 years. She is so upset about it because in the intruim she was cheating ( old phone bill) - she had stuck me with over 1800 in debt. I am trying everything I can , staying obedient ,listening to my Mom, Aunt, Friends and God not to go to her job and embarass her ,not to tell her boss that she lied about being a ex con to get her fired. Don't let this destroy you ................. keep positive he is out there .......just take it slow. It isn't a easy road. sexy in nj