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Topic: Looking for Lapband or Realize Band Pen Pal
I was "Realized" in Sept. 2009 and would like to talk with other bander(s). I am 48 yrs old and live in Michigan.
Topic: RE: looking for a pen pal
My heart goes out to you. I don't have as much to lose as you do but we all struggle with the same issues. I hope that you find a way to pay for your surgery...I know that some get it paid for through Medicad.
Topic: Pen Pal needed
Hello all,
Would love to talk with anyone who has had WLS in or around the Charlotte, NC area.
I am from South Carolina but my DR. is at the Charlotte Hospital. Going July 28, to talk with him again and to decide if this is what I want to do.
My name is Sherry and I am 55 yrs. old.
Would love to talk with anyone who has had WLS in or around the Charlotte, NC area.
I am from South Carolina but my DR. is at the Charlotte Hospital. Going July 28, to talk with him again and to decide if this is what I want to do.
My name is Sherry and I am 55 yrs. old.
Topic: Looking to find a penpal/friend for my mother
My name is Ashley and I am looking for a penpal/phone pal/friend for my mother. She does not have access to the internet so writing and calling would be the essential. She has about 200 pounds to lose and I am trying my best to support her, but she does not have any friends who treat her right. All the people she gets involved with end up taking advantage of her and treating her badly. She needs support from other people other than myself. If anyone is interested please message me! Thanks so much and best of luck to you all on your weight loss goals!!!!
Topic: Looking for penpal in Louisiana, live in Baton Rouge.
I'm looking for someone to email or text with through this journey. My surgery date is Aug. 31, 2010 and I would love to have a friend for support and be able to give back support to them as well.
I am 55 years old and work from home (a big part of the problem with my weight). I feel I may really need the encouragement at times.
Excited but realistic!
I am 55 years old and work from home (a big part of the problem with my weight). I feel I may really need the encouragement at times.
Excited but realistic!
Jean E. 
Louisiana Fluffy Mama
Louisiana Fluffy Mama 
Topic: RE: Need guidence...and support!!!
I don't come here much but i posted this today on the main forum and wanted to copy it to you. Hope it helps somehow....
People overeat and stuff themselves in order to feel good. It's the pleasure factor that we are all after when we eat. When we stuff ourselves or give ourselves sweets, we actually are feeding the hormones in our body that give us pleasure sensations and those are the same sensations we get when we feel loved. We are as addicted to that sensation whenever we choose to overeat, get drunk or take drugs. All of them give us pleasure and all of us are seeking it. People just don't understand that food is an addiction just like alcohol and drugs. I personally realized that I was stuffing myself because I never had the love of my parents. My mother abandoned me because she chose to be an alcoholic and my father chose to love his second wife more than me and I ended up living with friends and other relatives all of my life. My father died when I was 15 and my mother died when I was 20. I harbored anger and bitterness towards them all of my life and chose to 'fill that void' with food because it made me feel good like being loved feels good. When I realized that fact, it helped me deal with the whole overeating issue itself. When I chose to forgive my parents and love them despite their failures, the desire to overeat went away. Granted, the surgery happened before I did that and the weight came off but I've managed to overcome the 'food is my life' issue because I chose to forgive. See, when you think about it, the people who have surgery are forced to first drink liquids the first week. Then they graduate to more solid liquids the second week. Then they graduate to soft foods after that and eventually get to regular food but in small increments from then on. If you stop and think about it, if a person would eat like that without surgery they would lose just as much weight as if they didn't have the surgery in the first place. RNY people regain their weight because they never dealt with the issue of why they overate in the first place. They thought that the surgery would cure the whole fat issue and it doesn't. They learn how to graze all day or stretch their pouch back out and then wonder why they've regained most or all of their weight. A person's weight issue will never be solved with surgery. It can only be cured by finding out why you are overeating and deal with that first and then learn to LISTEN to your body and only eating WHAT and WHEN it wants to eat. People think that 'mouth hunger' is real hunger but it isn't. Overweight people usually don't know what it's like to feel a hunger pain because they don't get to that point. Food is their life. They live to eat instead of eating to live. No one really realizes how little food the body needs for fuel each day. If you ask me if I would have had the surgery again, I would tell you no. Most WLSers aren't that way. I would have chosen to cure myself mentally first and then listened to my body and learned what it really wanted and when it wanted it instead of just throwing food down it when I saw a commercial or smelled food cooking. I don't know what decision is best for you but I do know that you must love yourself enough to cure the inside before you cure the outside, however you choose to do that is up to you.
People overeat and stuff themselves in order to feel good. It's the pleasure factor that we are all after when we eat. When we stuff ourselves or give ourselves sweets, we actually are feeding the hormones in our body that give us pleasure sensations and those are the same sensations we get when we feel loved. We are as addicted to that sensation whenever we choose to overeat, get drunk or take drugs. All of them give us pleasure and all of us are seeking it. People just don't understand that food is an addiction just like alcohol and drugs. I personally realized that I was stuffing myself because I never had the love of my parents. My mother abandoned me because she chose to be an alcoholic and my father chose to love his second wife more than me and I ended up living with friends and other relatives all of my life. My father died when I was 15 and my mother died when I was 20. I harbored anger and bitterness towards them all of my life and chose to 'fill that void' with food because it made me feel good like being loved feels good. When I realized that fact, it helped me deal with the whole overeating issue itself. When I chose to forgive my parents and love them despite their failures, the desire to overeat went away. Granted, the surgery happened before I did that and the weight came off but I've managed to overcome the 'food is my life' issue because I chose to forgive. See, when you think about it, the people who have surgery are forced to first drink liquids the first week. Then they graduate to more solid liquids the second week. Then they graduate to soft foods after that and eventually get to regular food but in small increments from then on. If you stop and think about it, if a person would eat like that without surgery they would lose just as much weight as if they didn't have the surgery in the first place. RNY people regain their weight because they never dealt with the issue of why they overate in the first place. They thought that the surgery would cure the whole fat issue and it doesn't. They learn how to graze all day or stretch their pouch back out and then wonder why they've regained most or all of their weight. A person's weight issue will never be solved with surgery. It can only be cured by finding out why you are overeating and deal with that first and then learn to LISTEN to your body and only eating WHAT and WHEN it wants to eat. People think that 'mouth hunger' is real hunger but it isn't. Overweight people usually don't know what it's like to feel a hunger pain because they don't get to that point. Food is their life. They live to eat instead of eating to live. No one really realizes how little food the body needs for fuel each day. If you ask me if I would have had the surgery again, I would tell you no. Most WLSers aren't that way. I would have chosen to cure myself mentally first and then listened to my body and learned what it really wanted and when it wanted it instead of just throwing food down it when I saw a commercial or smelled food cooking. I don't know what decision is best for you but I do know that you must love yourself enough to cure the inside before you cure the outside, however you choose to do that is up to you.
Topic: RE: Needed!!! email/text buddy had RNY in 04 and gained 50 lbs!
Wow, I am sitting here with my mouth gaping open in total shock of everything that has happened to you. I am a Christian woman/wife/mother and I have had a lot of hard times in my life also. I just want you to know that I am here for you for whatever you need as a friend and fellow WLS buddy. I hardly ever post here anymore but I posted this today in hopes that it would help someone. I hope it can help those *****ad it and I'll repost it here for you.
People overeat and stuff themselves in order to feel good. It's the pleasure factor that we are all after when we eat. When we stuff ourselves or give ourselves sweets, we actually are feeding the hormones in our body that give us pleasure sensations and those are the same sensations we get when we feel loved. We are as addicted to that sensation whenever we choose to overeat, get drunk or take drugs. All of them give us pleasure and all of us are seeking it. People just don't understand that food is an addiction just like alcohol and drugs. I personally realized that I was stuffing myself because I never had the love of my parents. My mother abandoned me because she chose to be an alcoholic and my father chose to love his second wife more than me and I ended up living with friends and other relatives all of my life. My father died when I was 15 and my mother died when I was 20. I harbored anger and bitterness towards them all of my life and chose to 'fill that void' with food because it made me feel good like being loved feels good. When I realized that fact, it helped me deal with the whole overeating issue itself. When I chose to forgive my parents and love them despite their failures, the desire to overeat went away. Granted, the surgery happened before I did that and the weight came off but I've managed to overcome the 'food is my life' issue because I chose to forgive. See, when you think about it, the people who have surgery are forced to first drink liquids the first week. Then they graduate to more solid liquids the second week. Then they graduate to soft foods after that and eventually get to regular food but in small increments from then on. If you stop and think about it, if a person would eat like that without surgery they would lose just as much weight as if they didn't have the surgery in the first place. RNY people regain their weight because they never dealt with the issue of why they overate in the first place. They thought that the surgery would cure the whole fat issue and it doesn't. They learn how to graze all day or stretch their pouch back out and then wonder why they've regained most or all of their weight. A person's weight issue will never be solved with surgery. It can only be cured by finding out why you are overeating and deal with that first and then learn to LISTEN to your body and only eating WHAT and WHEN it wants to eat. People think that 'mouth hunger' is real hunger but it isn't. Overweight people usually don't know what it's like to feel a hunger pain because they don't get to that point. Food is their life. They live to eat instead of eating to live. No one really realizes how little food the body needs for fuel each day. If you ask me if I would have had the surgery again, I would tell you no. Most WLSers aren't that way. I would have chosen to cure myself mentally first and then listened to my body and learned what it really wanted and when it wanted it instead of just throwing food down it when I saw a commercial or smelled food cooking. I don't know what decision is best for you but I do know that you must love yourself enough to cure the inside before you cure the outside, however you choose to do that is up to you.
People overeat and stuff themselves in order to feel good. It's the pleasure factor that we are all after when we eat. When we stuff ourselves or give ourselves sweets, we actually are feeding the hormones in our body that give us pleasure sensations and those are the same sensations we get when we feel loved. We are as addicted to that sensation whenever we choose to overeat, get drunk or take drugs. All of them give us pleasure and all of us are seeking it. People just don't understand that food is an addiction just like alcohol and drugs. I personally realized that I was stuffing myself because I never had the love of my parents. My mother abandoned me because she chose to be an alcoholic and my father chose to love his second wife more than me and I ended up living with friends and other relatives all of my life. My father died when I was 15 and my mother died when I was 20. I harbored anger and bitterness towards them all of my life and chose to 'fill that void' with food because it made me feel good like being loved feels good. When I realized that fact, it helped me deal with the whole overeating issue itself. When I chose to forgive my parents and love them despite their failures, the desire to overeat went away. Granted, the surgery happened before I did that and the weight came off but I've managed to overcome the 'food is my life' issue because I chose to forgive. See, when you think about it, the people who have surgery are forced to first drink liquids the first week. Then they graduate to more solid liquids the second week. Then they graduate to soft foods after that and eventually get to regular food but in small increments from then on. If you stop and think about it, if a person would eat like that without surgery they would lose just as much weight as if they didn't have the surgery in the first place. RNY people regain their weight because they never dealt with the issue of why they overate in the first place. They thought that the surgery would cure the whole fat issue and it doesn't. They learn how to graze all day or stretch their pouch back out and then wonder why they've regained most or all of their weight. A person's weight issue will never be solved with surgery. It can only be cured by finding out why you are overeating and deal with that first and then learn to LISTEN to your body and only eating WHAT and WHEN it wants to eat. People think that 'mouth hunger' is real hunger but it isn't. Overweight people usually don't know what it's like to feel a hunger pain because they don't get to that point. Food is their life. They live to eat instead of eating to live. No one really realizes how little food the body needs for fuel each day. If you ask me if I would have had the surgery again, I would tell you no. Most WLSers aren't that way. I would have chosen to cure myself mentally first and then listened to my body and learned what it really wanted and when it wanted it instead of just throwing food down it when I saw a commercial or smelled food cooking. I don't know what decision is best for you but I do know that you must love yourself enough to cure the inside before you cure the outside, however you choose to do that is up to you.
Topic: RE: Lapband penpal needed, anyone in Pa out there?
Hello Laurie and Margie!
I'm sorry I haven't posted a reply soon, just got back from a wonderful family vacation at the Outer Banks of NC! It was much needed - and just what the Dr. ordered!
I am 48 years old, married and live in north western Pennsylvania - close to Erie. I have 2 adult sons (one married) and my first Grandson! My children were on vacation and I loved spending the week with my Angel.
Congratulations Laurie for your success!! I am hoping to say that too one day! I am just beginning the Lap Band journey. So far, I've contacted a Bariatric surgeon at Hamot Hospital in Erie, and have a "date" to attend a seminar on August 4. I have heard that this part of the process can be very "taxing" - especially when you're anxious to get started!
Talk to you soon!
~Lisa
I'm sorry I haven't posted a reply soon, just got back from a wonderful family vacation at the Outer Banks of NC! It was much needed - and just what the Dr. ordered!
I am 48 years old, married and live in north western Pennsylvania - close to Erie. I have 2 adult sons (one married) and my first Grandson! My children were on vacation and I loved spending the week with my Angel.
Congratulations Laurie for your success!! I am hoping to say that too one day! I am just beginning the Lap Band journey. So far, I've contacted a Bariatric surgeon at Hamot Hospital in Erie, and have a "date" to attend a seminar on August 4. I have heard that this part of the process can be very "taxing" - especially when you're anxious to get started!
Talk to you soon!
~Lisa
Topic: RE: Lapband penpal needed, anyone in Pa out there?
Hi Elisa, where are you from? I have a little experience so maybe I can help you out some.... I am down 30 pounds since my surgey on 5-19-10, still struggling some but it is getting better, hope to hear from you soon, take care, Laurie
Topic: RE: Lapband penpal needed, anyone in Pa out there?
Hello there! Nice to meet you, sorry it took a bit to get back to you, in the process of moving so life is hectic... We just moved to Indiana, Pa... Not far from where we used to live... So busy remodeling and actually this is the last week we have to finish up with the old place that we rented ( cleaning it and a few odds and ends to move). I just went to my surgeons on thursday and have lost 30 pounds since the surgery on 5-19-10, have not had any fills yet, he says we will see next month how the weight loss is progressing. I think I have been so busy moving that I haven't had time to think about the weight ... I can eat almost anything, which is probably not good, but if I keep losing well thats okay I guess, how about you? You've done well it seems. How is the fill? Do you notice a difference? I have trouble chewing well so I do get things stuck which really hurts, I have to work on that... What do u do in the poconos? Family? I am married ( for the second and last time) and have a 20 year old daughter, I'm a nurse, I do pediatric home nursing and my husband works at a power plant.... Have to get back to work, its great that you responded and I hope we can go through this journey together, keep in touch, Laurie
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