Severe setback

 Just checking in.  I ended up in the ER on Sunday as a complication to the body life.  I had developed a large seroma that became infected.  My seroma wasn't open, just the big sloshy kind.  It was in fact, MUCH larger than any of us had thought.  I ended up being admitted and having surgery on Monday evening.  Surgery was to be 1 - 1 1/2 hours long to clean out the seroma pocket and find out the type of bacteria.  The surgery ended up being almost 4 hours long with several resident plastic surgeons being called in to view one of the largest seroma pockets seen at that hospital.  The pocket extended from my right hip across my lower abdomen to my left hip and then back to my buttocks/back on the left.  The pocket was scraped clean of the irritative lining that had formed, sprinkled with antibiotic and talc to help the pocket seal together.  I have 4 drains in again, and this time, those come out in the mons area -- which is very sensitive and tender.  I will have the drains in for a couple of weeks.

I was released yesterday, and feel so setback in my recovery.  I have to essentially start over again wih another 6-8 weeks of recovery.  I'm depressed, in much more pain than before and feeling useless.  My best friend is having to move away and I cannot be a support to her.  My son and his wife are having a baby shower on Saturday, and right now, I don't know if I can go.  Today is my 26th anniversary, and I cannot do anything for my husband.  My house is a disaster.  My older daughter hurt her knee and leg.  She cannot drive or walk, my younger daughter is going to school full time and working.  With her homework and schoolwork she is overwhelmed with the amount of housework, laundry and pet care needed. We are trying to get some additional help.

I shouldn't have stepped on the scale today - I am up 10 lbs from all the fluids in the hospital and the swellilng that my belly is undergoing.  ACK I feel like I'm falling apart!

Jennie

(((((((((((((((((Jennie)))))))))))))))))))))) Big GENTLE hugs! 

I don't know what else to say but that I am so sorry for your complications and that I wish you the best on this second recovery!  Don't worry about a messy house, of all things.  That can wait!  Just focus on healing and spend some time with your husband just "chilling" for your anniversary.  I'm sure he is just thankful you are still around and healthy and that this additional surgery is over with. 

I hope you feel better soon!

Jennie, I'm so sorry you are going through this.  All of the things you listed are happening around you, but the important thing is that you get well and take care of yourself.   I hope you feel better soon.   Rest, and recover, your freind and your family will understand. 

Sorry to hear this Jennie! You'll be in my thoughts and prayers for sure.

If you need anything or I can do anything for you let me know.

Oh, Jennie, I'm sorry you've had such a setback, but you are in great hands and your body will heal, it just takes time.  I know it's hard when we have unexpected set-backs - I had an infection after my RNY and it really rocked my world.  Just do your best to take care of yourself, keep those wounds clean, take whatever drugs your surgeon has prescribed for you, and just focus on healing. 

It sounds like you're feeling a bit guilty because of all the other stuff that's going on with your family -- if you're like me, you're usually the one taking care of everyone else.  But I suspect the people in your world would be happy to trade hats with you for a while, and instead be the ones making sure you are taken care of... hard as it may feel, let them do that for you... 

A huge {{{{{hug}}}} to you, with wishes for a speedy recovery -

Kellie

I'm really sorry to hear about the set back.  Take good care of yourself and don't worry about the house, the baby shower or your anniversary.  The house can always be cleaned another time, by someone else and that baby and that hubby of yours need YOU to be happy, healthy and terrific (as always!)

Love,
Jana

oh my! i'm so sorry to hear of this complication. it sounds just awful! please don't worry yourself about the condition of your house -- housework will wait -- dust isn't going anywhere. just let it go, and concentrate on yourself.

i'm really sorry you're having to go through this.

deb

oh sweetheart excuse me for my phrasing but that sucks!!!!!! but just remember that this to shall pass. you are in my thoughts and prayers

Jennie... All I can do is send you a cyber hug... I'm so sorry... If it makes you feel any better I'll sit right her with you until you feel a little better.

Jennie, adding you to my prayer list right now.  You are going through a lot right now and you know what to do.  Cast your cares upon Him!  He'll carry this burden for you!