Feeling a little sad

Ok, I am about 8 1/2 weeks out.  I am down about 50 #, thought I would be down a little more.  I am feeling stressed about money/bills.  I feel like my emotions are all over the place.  One minute I feel like screaming, the next I feel like just crying my eyes out!!  And of all things, I am getting a period again... about 2 weeks since my last one; and I am on the BC pill.   Have you gals gone thru this?  What did you find helpful.  My hubby is great and supportive and keeps asking me whats wrong, but he just doesn't understand how emotional I feel. Sorry about the ranting, but I think it helps to write about it. Caroline

First of, all you are losing at an amazing rate.  Your expectations are too high. It is very typical to feel emotional and low after any surgery.  Add the fact that fat loss releases estrogen and then another period it is no wonder that your emotions are all over the place.  Your feelings are very real.  You feel terrible and I am so sorry.  Give your husband lots of hugs because he is so sweet and because then you will get them back.  If you think you need them, get on ant-depressants short term.  Many people do after any surgery.  Try to pamper yourself.  Remember that you don't have to be perfect.  Embrace your weight loss.  Buy yourself some flowers.  Put a sign on your mirror that says I am beautiful and lovable.  Pet your dog a lot.  Change your hair.  Go to the thrift store.  Journal.  I care, Loris

I am going through the emotional rainbow myself.  I yell, I cry, I laugh!  Some minutes I am looking to kill and others I can't get enough hugs.  My poor family.  I am going back to work this week and I sure hope it helps to have some sort of routine.  So no Caroline - you are not alone!  When it is really bad I find myself going to my room and allowing myself to cry and cry!  Then I compose myself and promise to work on being nicer to those who love me! Now about your period - I am so scared what you are going through is going to happen to me.  I too take BC but my cycles were so bad before and now adding the WL has me a bit anxious and I know it doesn't help my moods.  If it keeps happening - every 2 weeks, I mean - I'd give the ol' doc a call.  Maybe there is something stronger/different you could try.

If you are having another period so soon after your last one, your birth control is not working.  I hope you are using a second method!  I'd see your gyno about changing to something else.  As for the emotional roller coaster - its very common.  I think I cycled in and out of depression for a while after surgery, and I cried quite a bit.  Often for no reason that I understood.  I alienated the people around me, closed myself off, and was pretty unpleasant.  Your body is going through so much right now, its bound to affect you in all kinds of crazy ways.  Batten down the hatches and ride out the storm.  If you need some chemical assistance, its not uncommon.  I am on an antidepressant now, for depression and anxiety.  Its helping.  Good luck!

Im almost 4 months out and had 2 periods and not any since i get the symptoms the moodiness the pimples but nothing else. The men in my life are like what now im either crying or laughing or bi....ing no in between. i dont want to take anything but because of my hormones going crazy i think im gonna have to. So honey you arent alone..lol

You are definitely not alone - as Loris and Jen both noted, a lot of us go through this type of rough patch.  For me, the emotional rollercoaster settled down after a few months and I got back to my old self, in terms of more normal emotions.  It helped knowing I was not the only one going through it, and also knowing that it would end when I had less estrogen racing around in my system!!!   In terms of what I found helpful, I'm a little strange in that knowing and understanding what was going on actually made me feel better.  I knew I wasn't going crazy and I knew it wasn't going to last.  Plus, I explained what was going on to the important people in my "universe," so they'd understand when I burst into tears for no reason.  Honestly, for me it was like living with a super bad case of PMS for a few months.... A huge, huge {{{{{HUG}}}}} to you, and know that it does get better!!!!  Kellie

Ditto to what everyone here has already said.  Losing fat releases hormones and that's bound to effect you emotionally.  I will just be doing absolutely nothing and bust out crying.  I just cry it out and when I'm done I go on with it...no apologies, no trying to figure out "what's wrong", it just is what it is and my body will adapt.  I do feel bad for the other people in my life that have to put up with it though.  Hang in there - you are recovering well and have been through a lot of stress - the surgery, complications, rapid weight loss, bills, and probably some other things.  Nobody can fault you for being a bit whacked through all of that. 

thanks gals, I really appreciate all the support. Caroline

Hang in there Caroline, it will get better. Just takes a little time.  We are here for ya!!! Tommi

I think your loss so far is fantastic.  Try not to set the bar too high as far as expectations go, or else you can be dissapointed.  Money issues are so stressful.  Keep your chin up and hopefully things will even out in that area.  Many people have emotional changes after surgery.  Keep strong and hopefully soon your emotions will balance.  It may be a little while, but you WILL feel better! Periods...UGG...I decided on getting the Mirena IUD prior to surgery so that we didn't have any "oopsie's".  I just didn't trust birth control pills given the absorption issues of food (BTW - I'm not saying we don't absorb BC pills, just that I was SCARED I wouldn't)  Also, I find that I have peace of mind that I'm not forgetting a pill or anything like that.  My periods are more frequet post surgery.  I had the IUD for maybe 4-6 months prior to surgery and had no periods at all.  Then the night before surgery I started getting them again in full vengence.  I cycle at around 21-25 days instead of 28-30 days like I used to.  So it feels like I never get a break.  Thankfully this month I hit 27 days.  I hope we are starting a new trend!  I did talk to the doctor and she says as long as you aren't cycling under 21 days it is considered normal.  I'd give them a call since you were only at two weeks and you probably want to use a backup until you get the okay sign your obgyn. Best of luck and big hugs of strength to you!  :)