Calorie Countdown - Tuesday, what's on your plate?

Hello, I'm not sure what I will eat yet today, but I'll post it after I track it.  We had a weird night last night.  There is a family upstairs, husband, wife, and 11y/o girl.  We talk to the kid a lot, she's outside playing frequently and very forward/friendly.  She thought were were teenagers at first, LOL.  Apparently Ryan looks 17 and I am 14 or so.  She asked me what my parents did and I was so confused.  Anyway, that's beside the point.  Her parents fight quite a lot.  It seems to come and go, but we know they fight a lot because they seem to end up doing it on the stairs in front of our apartment.  I hate apartments.  Mom yells at the top of her lungs now and again, so its hard to miss.  Apparently now he gave her herpes.  I am so glad to know this, thank you for screaming it, more than once.  I'm like "did she just say herpes?" and Ryan says "I don't know.."  and we move on.  Then the next night you hear something about herpes again.  Great, my neighbors have herpes, thanks for sharing.  So last night it was fairly bad, she was on the stairs and he was standing in the door.  Ryan went outside to do something and saw the kid walking around, obviously upset.  He talked to her for a few minutes and then asked her if she wanted to play Wii for a while.  She's been trying to get into our apartment to play Wii for a while but its always at inconvenient times.  So she went and asked mom and then came in to play.  She stayed for 3 hours.  She's a sweet kid and I feel bad for her, today is her birthday.  But I also DO NOT want to get involved.  Ryan, who lived through a very very very ugly divorce, is very sympathetic, and I am too, but I don't want to get involved.  So we sent her up once an hour to check in and she'd come back, say they were still fighting, and play some more.  At about 10:30 we sent her home, and she literally dragged her feet out the door and looked so sad.  At about midnight they were yelling on the stairs again.  This is just crazy, argh.  Mom's kind of insane, yelling about how she wishes he would die.  He's kind of an ass, with a big loud Harley that wakes us up at 5am every day, and the kid is a bright funny sweet and obviously bored stressed-out girl.  She kept saying she missed school because she was bored at home.  Ugh. So I am bugged.  Its terrible, but I generally do my best to not get to know my neighbors.  I usually don't learn their names, and just say hi to them on the way to and from the car.  Despite what you may think since I post here all the time, I am an anti-social person.  I am afraid we are going to have a stray kid coming around, and I feel bad that this bothers me because she obviously needs someone to talk to and somewhere to go - and my husband is apparently willing to be that person.  He likes kids, he's a big one, and he feels bad for her.  Argh.  That was long sorry.  I am just uneasy today. 

Poor kid. Someone needs to do something to help her, to make a phone call on her behalf, to get involved. It's not her fault. No one should have to put up with the yelling and screaming either, especially not the neighbors. Pre B - SF NF Brown Sugar Cinnamon Latte B - 1/2 whole wheat English muffin with natural peanut butter and banana slices on top S - Greek yogurt w/black and blueberries and Kay's Natural cereal added in L - meatcrust pizza S - turkey jerky D - homemade turkey chili, salad S - nuts

Pre B - yogurt & textured veg protein - 20 gms of protein B - Carb Check bagel - 19 gms fiber - 12 gms protein S - RTD protein as creamer in my coffee - 17 gms protein L - Chicken Cordon Bleu - 29 gms protein D - ??  probably more chicken since I buy the box and cook them all at once they're just sitting in my fridge waiting to be reheated...... LOL

Jenn I agree with Janelle someone has to make a call. I m a former foster parent and this is one of the first things they taught us. Its better to let them be checked out then it keep getting worse and something happen. It is nice that you all were there for her,everyone needs a little tlc. Your husband sounds like a real sweetheart. Also they really left you no choice but to get involved good luck sweetie

My sympathy on the situation in your apartment.  I not anti-social or anti-neighbor, but I do not like getting drawn into other peoples' dramas; I've got enough drama in my own life.  Like you, I feel for the girl because she's caught in a terrible situation, which should never happen to any child.  But it is not your or Ryan's responsibility to "save" her.  If you choose to offer some support, that's okay, but it's also okay not to get involved.  And given what you've said about her parents, it very likely would not help things if you said anything to either of them, so I wouldn't even think about going there.... In terms of the purpose of this post, I had a good food day yesterday, and am track for a good day today.  Here's what's on my plate:

Breakfast:  1 c. 1% milk in my coffee, 1 packet Quaker Weight Control oatmeal

Snack #1:  1 c. low-fat cottage cheese, 4 tbsp. SF preserves, 2 large, diced strawberries, handful blueberries

Snack #2:  small nectarine, medium banana, ~ 2 tbsp. natural peanut butter

[workout #1:  yoga]

Lunch:  Kashi chicken florentine

Snack #2:  1 c. Dannon light & fit vanilla yogurt, 1/4 c. Bob's Red Mill Mueslix, 2 large, diced strawberries, handful blueberries

Snack #3:  1 slice whole-grain bread, 3 slices smoked turkey, 1 slice low-fat cheese, alfalfa sprouts

[workout #2:  40-45 minutes of cardio - intervals]

Snack #4:  post-workout apple

Dinner:  5 oz. broiled salmon, ~1 1/2 c. steamed broccoli

Snack #5:  2 sugarfree fudgesicles

Total calories: 2119
Carbs:  267.4
Fat:  63.5
Fiber:  41.8
Protein:  147.5

You are uneasy because of the situation you've been put in.  I hate when kids are in the middle of stuff like that.  Parents don't realize what they are doing to their kids.  Selfish. Today's been kinda a carby day. I went to breakfast by myself and had blueberry multigrain pancakes.  I only ate the middle part where the blueberries were and they didn't need syrup. For lunch I went to a annual meeting where one of my friends was receiving a Presidential award for community service.  I volunteered to help at check in and I didn't get to eat because we were busy and I didn't want to walk to the front of the room where my seat was.  I was so thirsty so I drank several glasses of water. On the way back to the office I stopped at Arbys and got 2 ham and swiss melts.  I ditched the bread and ate the meat and cheese.  Good thing I got two. Then ate about a cup of watermelon back at the office. Boy I'm in a protein deficit today for sure!  I feel a protein shake in my future for tonight! Last night I made London Broil.  That junk is tough and I marinated it before I cooked it.  There was no way I was going to eat that for dinner 'cause I wuz skeered of it! So I went to look for some tuna.  NONE!  It's been in the closet for 9 months and no one's eaten it but when I want to eat it, it's all gone.  Luckily I had some surf and turf appetizers in the freezer.  Bacon wrapped filet and shrimp.  I only ate half of it. My eating has been really poor lately!  Gotta get back on track with healthier foods.

B - MF Hot Chocolate w/ added coffee S - MF Dutch Chocolate Shake L - MF Maryland Crab Soup S - MF Lemon Bar D - Rosemary Chicken, green beans S - MF Chai Latte

Elizabeth came knocking today but we hadn't showered and gotten dressed yet, we were still in PJs so we didn't answer.  I haven't seen her since, but did have a long talk with husband about it.  He feels like its karma because when he was a kid he had it tough, and several of his friends parents (and my mom) sort of "adopted" him when things were bad, so he and his sister at least had a safe place to go.  So he wants to pay it forward I guess.  That being said, I suggested maybe he look into Big Brothers or something "official" like that.  He did tell her that anytime it got really bad she could come down and play and I'm OK with that as long as it isn't all the time - I suggested we leave the door open when she is here also, but we have to put the cats away if we do that.  I understand where he's coming from, and my mom had (and still has) her share of stray kids.  My cousins lived with us when I was a kid, my brother's best friend basically lives with them now, and there were two cases where she nearly adopted kids in need.  I called her today, she had no words of wisdom.  I wish we had a kid she could play with or something, then it wouldn't seem as weird to me.  We are not sure about calling someone yet, we're going to play it by ear for a little while.  Food - B - 6 crackers, 2 wedges of laughing cow S - 12oz mootopia L - refried beans and cheddar cheese S - myoplex shake D - making a steak and edamame and a sweet potato for husband - I'll probably eat the veggies and maybe make a chicken breast

I'm sure your aware, as you said you'd like to leave the door open when she's there, but please ask Ryan, as kind as he is, not to allow her in if your not there. You just can't be to safe nowadays. I'm totally thinking of Ryan in this case. I think you both have big hearts, and I understand where your coming from.

Just a bit of a "heads up".  I don't know about Texas, but in Louisiana it is not a crime or child abuse to fight in front of your child.  When I worked in child protection well intentioned neighbors would call often to report situations similiar to the one you described.  Unfortunately I would have to tell callers that we appreciated their concern but if the child was not physically in danger, there was little the agency could do to intervene.  It is likely the same in this situation.  It is terrible that a child has to physically be caught in the middle of this sort of disfunction before an agency can step in, but it is that way here and as I said before, likely that way there too!   I also agree with the posters that said Ryan should not be alone with her.  He is too good hearted to be caught up in the mess that seems to be that family.  Heck - you two should probably both not be alone with her.  Good Luck!!