Monday Question of the day...

Do you like yourself? Would you be your friend? If no what do you think you need to change in order for you to like yourself and for you to be friends with yourself?

That is a very hard question for some people... People battle with that question on a daily basis... with that being said...for the first time in years I love myself! I dont think anyone should ever change for other people becuase they will grow to not like the person they are pretending to be, and that in itself can be destuctive to a person... and cause great pain and depression being something they are not... I think even if someone only has a few friends they are usually very very close friends because they accept a person for who they and what they are...

michelle

I do like myself.  That being said I have aspects of my personality that I need to work on improving.  I would be my friend.  I am a good friend most of the time.  However, I tend to get involved too much in my own life and put friendships on autopilot.  Ah, I guess the bottom line is that I am a work in progress.

denise

I do like myself and I would be my own friend-in fact, I think I am my own friend.  When I get too judgemental about myself (like every five minutes) I try to remind me of what I would say to a friend in that same situation....and it would never be what I tell myself at first.

I think we'd all be better off if we were better "friends" to ourselves.  That kindness tends to move outward making us better all around friends.

Yes, I do. I love myself these days. Absolutely I would be my friend. I don't run around with friends like a lot of people do. I'm married to my best friend, and we do everything together. About the only time I don't go somewhere with my DH and or son is Support Group. I just learned a long time ago to put my family first, and I do. I just wish I'd learned that lesson when my DD was little. I was a cheer sponsor, a competitive drama sponsor, you name it when she was little. I missed out on a lot. As I"ve gotten older, I've learned to say No more often than ever before. What are they going to do? Fire me? All that being said, I need to learn to stay in touch with my friends outside of work. However, I also consider people on this forum to be friends as well.

Do I like myself? Yes most the time.
Would I be my friend? shoot yeah! i am kewl!

i could use some work on being a friend. I get annoyed easily with people so sometimes I am sarcastic towards them. I am also working on not being a doormat for friends. I have experinced lately just because I will do anything for a friend they in turn will NOT do anything at all for me. Is it the friends i have or is it me? My husband says its me.. I give give give and let people take advantage of me and then if I ask for something they act like I have asked for thier life. I still beleive you should help a friend in need but not so freely.

I absolutley like myself. I find that I like who I am more and more every day with this journey I'm on, but I've generally always liked myself. I took on the attitude at a very young age just to love life and let it love me back. I tend to make sunshine out of crap (i know...it's amazing) every day. I just don't see the point in letting myself not smile. Yes, I have those days that I hate the world...but usually, a couple of hours into it, I realize I'm a pretty blessed girl and there are a whole lot of people in this world that have it a whole lot worse than I do. That's when I put on my sunshine and spread it around. I would be my friend because I love happy people, and I think I am one. :) I love you guys!!!

Liz

Do you like yourself? Would you be your friend? If no what do you think you need to change in order for you to like yourself and for you to be friends with yourself?

Heck yeah I like myself...  I haven't always liked myself as much as I do now, but I've come a long ways on learning about me and I have found a lot about me that I really like through exploration and through counseling.  Would I be my friend?  Yes I would be!  I have the best friends in the world and I think they reflect on the person that I am and have become.

Do I like myself...wow....I used to think that what I felt for myself was like but I soon came to realize that it was a fake like (if that is what it is).  Telling myself that I liked myself was my way of not admitting to the fact that I was overweight and that I didnt care how other people looked or treated me.  Well since I have lost the weight, I definitely feel better about myself (maybe became a little vain too..) and I realize that what I feel for myself now is like and that what I did feel before was actually loathing. 

Would I be my friend?  I really hope that I would.  I dont have alot of friends the way it is, by my choosing.... too much drama out there.... the few friends that i have, I have had for over 25 or more years, since grade school and even though we move around so much we always manage to keep in touch.  Actually my next move coming up is actually to where my girlfriend is now living... we have been through alot together and she actually had wls 10 years ago and is my inspiration on how to make things work.

There are a few things I would change about myself, personality wise, but as all of us are, I am still a work in progress and always will be in some way.  On the most part, I am not hurting myself mentally anymore and I dont allow people to have the control over my feeling to hurt me either, in any way.

 I'm a very loyal friend and sometimes put too much into my friendships.  That's ok, as long as my friends don't take advantage of that.  Most don't, but I've had a few that don't "give back" if you know what I mean and that hurts.  So I find that I don't dive in so quickly these days.  With that said, I like myself most of the time and yes, I'd be my friend.  However, I need work in the wife and mom department.  
Cindy