Tonight is the night!

You go any place you want to go. If that lady causes trouble, kitting needles can also be used to poke people... :>) donna

Ooh, Donna!  You have an evil side!  I LOVE it! Denise

UPdate: Well, I have survived quite well. I got there first and was joined shortly by a friend that hadn't attended in some time. She was very supportive and up beat. The *unapproving* person showed up with another friend. She was surprised and I think would have turned and left, but the friend she entered with just kept walking forward and smiling. Nobody mentioned surgery or anything about weightloss. That was fine with me. We all chatted and knitted, except for the unapproving person. She chatted with the others and never made eye contact with me. But, I did ask a question about her project which she answered ... so she spoke when asked a question. After a few minutes, I was comfortable and enjoying the other friends and just let the one that was being odd just continue to do what she chose. She wasn't rude directly, so that was a relief. I'm planning on returning next week to visit with the others. If the one that is upset doesn't mellow, oh well, it's her choice but I can enjoy my other friends and she doesn't have to join in. Sheesh, this is like 3rd grade playground!!!

Thank you to EACH of YOU for your support!!! It's great to know that we're all accepted here and size and surgery status doesn't matter! I'm so very thankful for each of you!

I am so glad it worked out well!!  I thought about you this morning and had to search back for this post to find out what happened.

I had to search for an update to your situation.  I am so glad it went well and you were able to eventually ignore the a$$ on the other side of the room.  She doesn't deserve to have your friendship anyway.  I am so proud of you for going and think you have made a fine example for the rest of us.

Thanks for the update.  I thought about you this evening.  Don't you wish adults could just act like grown-ups?  It would make life so much easier. I am happy you had fun and plan on going back.  You need to do what you enjoy doing and she can just suck it up or leave.

I'm glad that it went ok.  Just continue on letting her deal with whatever is bothering her.

I had a co-worker that I loathed and who loathed me, but eventually we became companionable enough in our loathing for each other that if we DID agree on something it was taken as an sign of extra approval.  When I was concerned about his health I actually said to him "Steve, you know I can't stand you but I'm worried about your health and I'd feel bad if you dropped dead"...and he went to the doctor.

I'm just saying, some relationships are meant to be odd. (and this wasn't friendly antagonism-we were fundamently offended by the other person's philosphy and manners, but we could still work together)

I am glad you went and had a good time. It will be curious to see if eventually the other woman stops going to meetings. I had a somewhat similar experience. When I told my coworkers of my plans there was only one who tried to discourage me. She is the thinnest one in the office but is constantly dieting and obsessed about her weight -- and has been for the 15 years I have known her. I went into the office yesterday to have one of my nurses infuse my factor and everyone came up to me to see how I was doing - except her. When she did come into the room she changed the subject and never spoke to me directly. Some people are just weird!

I just want to say that I know I was truly blessed to be able to hit town and have the surgery away from prying eyes, and that was in part due to a deliberate choice in timing.

It's  not just WLS-I lost a lot of weight and regained it during my stay in Dallas, and co-workers were brutal, many without intending to be.  When I changed jobs, I made the choice to keep co-workers in a co-worker category and shared very little with them about personal details.

I'm not saying that the original set of people were "bad people', but even the politest question "how much have you lost" gets grating when it's asked by 20 different people.  What's interesting, is that my bicycle club friends (who saw me only in spandex) weren't that obsessed with it....and I realized because at work you are always looking for a distraction....and I was it for awhile.

I think the best thing to do is just not react in anyway to people like that.  They'll either get over whatever is bugging them or they won't, but you needed waste any energy on it.  We are responsible for what we do directly to people, but if I'm living my life and not hurting anyone, they can just keep their problems with themselves.

Nancy - your co-worker is not only a hag, she is a skinny hag!