BAD DAY AT WORK NOSY COWORKERS!!!!!!

Hello everyone well i recently went back to work after being out 9 weeks . This is my 3rd day back and up until now everyone has been real quiet about my surgery. I did not tell alot of people but somehow everyone knows whatever no biggie . Well my problem is that I have a real nasty boss who looked at me and said you look good hope you don't gain it back !!!! I thought to myself how rude  and then she went on to tell me about all the complications hello i did my research and I am a nurse. I was soooooooo mad she then brought up the topic in the break room now everyone knows and I was so embarrassed everyone started telling horror stories of complications people have had . Everyone asking a million questions .   I wanted to  walk out that moment I honestly did not know how to handle this any suggestions.? Well anyway thanks for letting me vent . Hugs Lori

OMG!!!! How freakin embarrassing!!!! Your boss should have had more tact than that...and from your post ....do you work in some sort of healthcare setting where the employees are supposed to comply with HIPAA? (((((((((((((((HUGS))))))))))))))))))))))) and things will be ok. Sincerely, Stephanie from Virginia

I work in a Hospital isn't that unbelievable!!!! I should get them all in trouble . I am still at work as I am writing this and I am still furious. THanks for listening !!!!!

 

Hugs

Lori

my famous saying is sit back and watch..... there is  a lot of jealousy out t..here and  i haveba learned that nothing good happens to bad people.....as you continue to lose you will feel the jealousy even more..... just SIT BACK AND WATCH!!!!  you will soon have so much confidence that it wont bother you and you will be able to come back with the best of comments.... if i had to guess your boss overweight??? attensesupport groups of people that have had the surgery and you will find that your not alone good luck and god bless and remember if nothing else we are herre for u!!!! Stacy

Thanks Stacy This women seems to be a very jealous type person. SHe is overweight but she gets her joys out of itimidating and hurting people. I pretty much told them all that I know all I need to know and it's my business. I hope I don't have to deal with this again . I am still shocked  but I feel better now that I vented and I a m gettimg the support. Thanks again Hugs  Lori

OMG!!!!  I would have poked her in the eyes!!!!  I would take some time and speak with her about her insensitivity!!!  Not to mention, confidentiality!!!  I have a similar situation.  I have hidden in my house for many years.  Well, as I go out more and my father is along, he is telling people before I even see them about my surgery.  Then, when I approach their convo, he is saying things like, "doesn't she look good?".  That begins the other person asking me questions about the surgery.  I guess I need to tell him to STOP!  Not everyone has seen me larger, so I don't want them to know! 

Thanks Cheri I am going to deal with her I just don't know how yrt. I am not easily intimidated but she totally caught me off guard.I will get her back somehow lol I am still so furious but getting better .Thanks again for the support Hugs  Lori 

Lori, UGH....it sounds like jealousy to me. People don't like to see others succeed in the area of weight loss. I would NEVER have said the mean things she said but I can relate to feeling "left out" when people at work were losing weight and I was gaining (pre-op) Having said that: there is NO excuse for the comments. I might consider going to HR. It's a violation of your privacy. Hugs....cya tomorrow Gym-sis! -karen

Hi Karen I should go to HR but She will only make my life more miserable that is the kind of person she is.I just can't believe she did this in front of so many people. I am going to deal with her but I am still so shocked and embarrased . Now I have to go back tonight and deal with other people who haven't seen me because of her I am paranoid. Well wish me luck see ya at the gym sis Hugs Lori 

I agree with everyone that it was certainly a violation of your privacy and I would see about filing a grievance especially if you were out on disab since that is nobody's business but yours.

As far as people asking questions, you can simply either answer them or say, I've talked about this so much, let's talk about something else and then change the subject.  People who have WLS or get pregnant seem to hear all the horror stories, so for those who wish to get into all the stories, again, thank them for their concern, tell them you did the research, know/knew the risks involved and change the subject.

Best of luck to you! Let us know what you decide to do. Sue