*sigh*...mild expletives and tears...here we go again

I really don't understand insurance what makes them the experts on this surgery.  They are all just a load of paper work....Sh*t, F*ck, ********does that make you feel better?  There, I vented for you.  Maybe you need to get better at ....I hate to say this....LYING!  Sometimes you just have to play the part, tell them what they want to HEAR.  Why do you feel so compelled to tell them the honest truth about the past.  You simply have weight issues stemming from childhood obesity, don't elaborate, sometimes less is more.  I played the game, did not really tell the truth about the past...who's business is it anyways???  I even went as far as to tell them both my parents were....dead (lie)  because I did not want to deal with their medical history or make it mandatory to have them there for my surgery.  I have BCBS and I did not have to do 6 months supervised diet.  My starting weight was 302 lbs.  I did, however, get a diagnosis of sleep apnea which may have given me the best odds at getting this surgery approved.  Even a mild case is enough to make the surgery approved quickly (life or death situation).  Please don't give up!!  I didn't and I'm down 90 lbs now.  It is worth it if you just hang in there.

Thank you for the support, Blanca and Trish! Really, it truly helps. Blanca, we are not elegible as we own our own home and basically have no bills at all, so while 38,000 seems pretty low, we ive comfortably within our means. It works. Tri****hought about lying, I admit it, but I've never been good at it and figured it would be counter-productive to start now. Afterall, most of this stuff is a papertrail somewhere. I just ant this whole thing to be the start of something new and fresh, and I needed to be upfront about everything, for me, ya know? But she didn't even ask anything that probing...just kept labeling what I thought were answers very similar to nearly everyone in our situation. Sheesh, can't friggin'  win.

java Jane, Hi, I feel so bad for you and the only thing I can relate to you on is all the dieting and pills doesn't help sure we loose weight but then gain it right back after we go off the diet or stop taking the expensivediet pills. I think theese  psyciatrist have to get there head examined. they are the ones that are wacked in the head. I wish you the best of luck.  Sheila

HUGE  (((HUGS))

Oh Chris, I really feel for you.  And, yes, my first thought was lying too!  But you never know what these a##h###s want to hear, and then we have to remember our lies.  I try not to lie but when I do, I wind up talking myslef into a corner. When I was first banded, my insurance would not cover WLS at all, and we couldn't self-pay in the U.S.  Of course after I came back from Mexico with my lapband I found out that there was a low-bmi study in Westchester that I could have dieted my way into at only $3k more than Mexico!    AND I was damn lucky that I had after-care lined up here so I was able to have my complications taken care of.  You wouldn't BELIEVE how many people don't!   So, basically, I believe that everything happens for a reason., even though it's often the long route around.  I'll be pulling for you all the way.  And, please, vent away! Karen

I am so sorry you have to go through this!  What is the possibility of seeing someone else?    We all go for 2nd opinions!

I'm sorry you're going through this, but most of us went through something similar to what you are going through now, keep  your eyes on the prize!  I did the same course you did, i went for (3) psych evals and I decided to still go. You seem to think you won't have to think of food again, i've got good news and bad news. I think of food more now then i ever did, it's almost an obsession because now you've got minimal capacity and maximum protein/fluids!  Many of us had to do the 6 month diet and exercise regime, it gives you the opportunity to get your eating in line with what they want for surgery! Try to keep you chin up, you can get angry but really it's not going to help you and it's going to make you turn to food more.  ANDI