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Hey gang, I am so motivated by everyone's post, on having the courage to do something about their weight. Can you remind me again that this is a "fairly safe" procedure.  I feel like I am in a struggle.  I have had the consult, and the test, and the couseling.  My PCP is behind me!  And I hae an insurance that will approve me, their only criteria is a BMI over 40.  So what is stopping me?

Shara everyone gets the thoughts of being scared and the what if's.  Read somemore on the boards...research more.  You will come to peace with it.  It is a huge step, but I know you can do it!

What you're feeling seems quite natural to me.  Surgery is surgery no matter how you look at it!  I can tell you, the Friday b4 my Tuesday surgery (5/8/07) I had a melt down in the tanning bed.  Crying because I had let myself go so badly.  The day of surgery my surgery was 5 hours later than expected.  Even then I thought maybe I should just get dressed and leave.  I was scared to death!  (excited and hopeful, too though)  I am so glad I went through with my surgery.  it was the best thing I could have done for myself and my son!  Today, one of my secretaries told me I seem so happy!  Well, I am!!!!  You'll do what's best for you!  Good luck sweetie! 

It is totally normal to be feeling the way you are. I think everyone goes through the "what if's" I know I sure as hell did. Do some more research and make sure you have a strong support system ,remember we are always here for you, you will make the decision that is right for you I am sure. Good luck and keep us updated.  <3 Nicole

Hey Shara How you doin?  I too am all ready for the surgery, done all my cosults, md appts, got a date of July 6th but  I really am torn about this surgery.  Something is holding me back.  My intuition is telling me NO but my mind is trying to rationalize YES. I am doing lots of reading and I have some concerns about long term effects of this surgery.  I haven't  been able to grasp that it is permanent and if I am one of the "unlucky" I will have to live with this for the rest of my life and deal with whatever health issues I acquire. I feel as if I will be changing one set of health problems for another. I read a report on patients 10 years post op and it was not encouraging at all. So I am where you are. regards,

I was too excited to be scared .............. I think the only time that I actually had a oh my God moment was after surgery I was watching the surgery performed on the discovery health channel....Oh my Oh my....lets just say that I am glad that I didnt see that before surgery or else I would have been a nervous wreck.

Hello hun ~Hugs~ What you are feeling is normal and just take your time, when you are truely ready you will know it. I had my consult scheduled and the day before I had to go I canceled!!! I was just not read to go and deal with this BIG change in my life at that time but once I was in the right mind set I called and made another appt, kept that and moved forward! Now that did not mean I was not scared of what COULD happen but I knew this was something I HAD to do for my LIFE! When the time is right you will know hun, do not ru****! Give yourself the time you need to make all the right moves. For me what helped me get through this time was to write things down, the good, the bad and the goals! It really helped on how I felt about what I was doing. Keep us posted hun and know you have support here

If it helps..Dr. Roslin is a great surgeon...I know first hand.   The thing that threw me over the edge was based on my past weight loss and gain record....i determined what weight I'd be in 5 years and 10 years..and where I'd be physcially.   In 5 years I'd have been over 700 lbs and probably needed to be in a nursing home....in 10 years I'd have been dead.   Where will you be in 5 years if you don't have WLS? Scott

Yes, it's scary.  That's a natural feeling.  However, I assume you spoke w/your surgeon regarding the issue of it being 'fairly safe' (it's more than that) and felt reassured by his response and his track record.  When you get anxious, try & remember why you're doing this and how impt. it is to you.