Having a Hard week
Hi everyone!
I am having a terrible time this week staying on medifast! I have lost a total of 19lbs in two weeks on it. that should keep me in line and continuing with it. BUT I AM SOOOOO hungry on this. I have found myself mulitple times this week cheating. On sunday i ate 2 teaspons peanut butter and a handpuff of veggie chips. today they are celebrating nurses week at work. I went through in the begining and was really good, i measured out my salad and picked an appropraite piece of chicken. I THEN WENT JUST NOW and ate some kind of cholocate cookie like thing and a small piece of chicken. WHY DO I DO this to myself!!!! I set myself up for failure. I am so bitter and angry that i have to do medifast for 10 weeks. I DON"T WANT TO DO THIS FOR 10 WEEKS!!! this is week 3! THIS Stinks that i have to be on this for so long! I know that i am fat very fat but i don't think its fair that i have to be on medifast for so long 
I started in september on this journey and i don't want to wait 7 more weeks. I WANT TO EAT SOMETHING!!!! I so badly want to lose the weight i just hate the means that i have to go through to do it. 
If anyone is going through this as well would you be interested in being a phone pal for support?
Jamie Dunham
I started in september on this journey and i don't want to wait 7 more weeks. I WANT TO EAT SOMETHING!!!! I so badly want to lose the weight i just hate the means that i have to go through to do it. If anyone is going through this as well would you be interested in being a phone pal for support?
Jamie Dunham 
(((HUGS))) wow, 10 weeks sounds like it is crazy. I am so sorry you are having a hard time on it. Are you allowed any kind of food at all on this plan? I only had to do 2 weeks fast with salads and veggie. You have made it so far. Keep that chin up babe. Do not sabotage yourself now sweet one. YOU can DO it!!!
i get to have 4 shakes a day and at the end of the day 4-5oz of protein and 1 1/2 cup of veggies. I think this is the last week of food and then i will be on just pure liquids. I am just so bitter about having to be on it so long! i think if it was 3-4 weeks i could have handled it but 10 weeks! this is aweful!
Jamie
Jamie:
It seems like it will be forever, but it will be sooooo worth it in the end. I did not have to do the medifast, I am going through the ALbany MEd program and had to lose 10%- hang in there- just think, 7 weeks and this will be a bad dream- but your new life will begin. Smile and remember- you are worth it! Often the things we want bad enough are the things that we have to work the hardest for.
Take care-
Vicki 
(deactivated member)
on 5/8/07 11:40 pm - MT
on 5/8/07 11:40 pm - MT
Jamie,
First off take a deep breath and smile!!! Now know that this is so very hard and you will not be perfect on this, we can strive for this but know that as long as we are doing the right things 90% of the time that is great! We are learning something so new to us and it takes so much time, if we ever really except this new way of life! I know for me I am still working on doing the right things most of the time and come to understand that it is OK for me to faulter as long as we pick ourselves back up and learn from it! I am almost 2 years out and the learning very really stops but know that we are human and this will be something we have to live with for the rest of our lives, I guess you can say that this is our cross to bear!
If you need anything please feel free to contact me! 
Debra P 
Debra P 
Jamie:
Hello from another Jamie!
I am glad you are here, that you are feeling your emotions and getting them out. I will offer an alternative view for you to consider. 
Perception is everything, we can use our minds in many ways, seeing 10 weeks as forever, unmanagemeble or impossible is one possibility, looking at the unfairness, the struggle, the pain, the DEPRIVATION all of these views will prolong pain and suffering and keep one in the VICTIM ROLE. It is not to say these are not how you feel. I appreciate your view, it is afterall YOUR JOURNEY.
REFRAME:
Consider the short time 10 weeks is in the scheme of the rest of your life. Consider 10 wks of medifast as a small price to pay for a gift to truly have the opportunity to be healthier! See the wt loss as a GIFT to yourself, that you DESERVE, see this as a CHALLENGE vs a difficulty. Wtite the reasons to stict to this, the closer to an ideal BW you will be after WLS, the healtheri you will be going into surgery, the lower risk of complications/death due to this improved health (shrinking abdmonial/visceral fat, shrinking liver).
You are tapping into some IMPORTANT emotions here, ones that will only fester and grow along the way as you have WLS. These are excellent opportunities to work on your emotional issues if you choose w/o leaning soley on food. *YES I mean journaling, medittion, therapy etc*.
Having WLS is the first step but only the first step, these issues will only intensify after and actually do NOT go away after WLS no matter what we wish for or hope for. The rest of our lives is a long time to live a healthy lifestyle, we will have to exercise, make healthy hoices, take suppliments, see health care providers FOREVER after WLS to be successful and HEALTH or we could trade obesity for malnutrition which is just as deadly. These challenges are great opportunities/lessons for us all, if we do not learn them, we will just have to learn them later, over and over again they will pop up I truly believe. So don't look at 10 wk as waste or hard its just training for the rest of your life!!!
For ME, it was "no one" was going to stop me from having this operation, it was my decision and all that was asked of me was to loose 30 lbs, I figured this is a small price for such a wonderful gift I would be given and the opportunity to have a healthier happier longer life....! I was so motivated/psyched; I dropped 30 pounds in 30 days and went on to drop 15 more before surgery! (Although this took me 2 months, as it got harder and I had a few last meals, we all do but you can't let this ruin your opportunity!) . I tried to turn my anger and sadness into gratitue as much as I could. I am not perfect, no one is but we can all challenge ourselves! 
I also had to remind myself how BAD I wanted this! Everyday it was/had to be more important to me to change my bad habits and lose weight to have this surgery than to continue to slowly kill myself with food/keep myself from the only hope I had!. I also told everyone about my plans and they helped support me, my friends/family and coworkers! I really can't give you any more guidance than this, it really had to come from within, it was a mindset with me, and I wanted this BAD real bad and I knew it was my last resort/chance! I felt invigorated and motivated by the end results...the long-term had to outweigh the short-term gratification of eating bad choices or overeating! It was a learning opportunity for me to change my habits and practice chewing well, not drinking with meals and eating smaller portions, giving up sugar/caffeine/carbonation/alcohol (if any of those are your issues, carbonation/caffeine/alcohol weren't issues for me)! FOCUS on what you can do, ot how you are limited. This often lessens the challenge....See how far u have come as others said you're doing it 90% that is AWESOME!
It takes extraordinary courage to make the decision and live w/ the choices we make to consciously limit food choices for the rest of our lives (and potentially limit social opportunities built around meals) among all the other potential complications it can bring short or longterm....
I hope you are able to make the reframe on the preop wt loss diet, and see it not as a diet/number goal/lenght of time solely but rather just a few steps in your million mile journey to health and long-term success; which WLS is one of the million as well *it is not the destination*! Those that have goals that are health focused and functionally focused do the best (vs. those that are scale or weight/number focused). I am such a firm believer in not allowing the scale (or hunkametal that it is) to rule or dictate ones life/thoughts/feelings any longer, I agree we want to lose wt but gaining our health and ability to function in life are far more important than any number the scale can read; otherwise if it never reads the number we think, others say, a chart suggests we fail and that is simply not true!!! Most of our lives we have set RIGID, UNREALISTIC WEIGHT LOSS GOALS for ourselves that are BOTH UNATTAINABLE and CHRONICALLY DISAPPOINTING and lead to DEVASTATION & the slippery slope of self-sabotage....So viewing the wt loss as a natural result of LIVING life in healthier ways...it is the UNDERLYING lifestyle change such as exercise, food choices, self-awareness/monitoring, avoidance of emotional eating, adherence to living self responsibly in a CONSISTENT way that is the foundation to our long-term success. ***THE GOAL SHOULD NEVER BE A NUMBER*** These choices are what makes WLS work long-term and not be another 1 year failed diet attempt (and believe me it is for MANY!)...It is a wonderful tool to build the foundation and sadly one that has a short honeymoon period for working/helping build that foundation...a mere 6 months for many, up to a 24 mo or so period..when 'if' the foundation wasn't build w/ all the needed 'supports' of diet/exercise/lifestyle changes, coping skills etc for non-emotional eating (i.e through individual therapy, support groups) it can collapse and the WLS tool if not used properly/consistently can be defeated w/o the extra supporting structures...Like having only one wall of your basement in place before putting the house on top.. what happens? it can crumble w/ the weight of the house (your life/the worlds challenges), but if you have the 4 walls in place (food choices/planning/healthy and consistent choices, exercise, self awareness/monitoring, support); then the WLS tool can just reinforce that foundation and make the house stand strong for a long long time!
If you can focus on all u can do to build this foundation now and not the 10 wks medifast they want, it will pass even quicker/less painfully, we can only influence our wt so much and the body is ultimately in control! So control what u can your PERCEPTION!
~~~~~~~
A lot of times we say we will be happy when... (fill in the blank) resisting the here and now, living in the past or future. Focusing on the NOW and working towrd acceptance of what is and learning to slowly and gently love ourselves as we are this moment goes a long way as well in our perceptions, mood and happiness.
Maybe use positive thinking such as:
"I AM COMMITTED TO FACE AND RESOLVE THE PROBLEMS OF LIVING" (i.e. no longer be morbidly obese)
"MY SUCCESS DEPENDS UPON MY CHOICES AND MY BEHAVIOR IN THE PRESENT" (i.e. having the surgery, committing to a healthy lifestyle)
PS I'd love to be an email buddy if it'd help
[email protected]
Take Care,
Jamie 
Lap RNY 10/9/02 Dr. Singh
320/163 5'9'' (lost 45# before surgery)
Plastics 6/9/04 & 11/11/2005 Dr. King
"Being happy doesn't mean everything's perfect, it just means you've decided to see beyond the imperfections!"
I am glad you are here, that you are feeling your emotions and getting them out. I will offer an alternative view for you to consider.
Perception is everything, we can use our minds in many ways, seeing 10 weeks as forever, unmanagemeble or impossible is one possibility, looking at the unfairness, the struggle, the pain, the DEPRIVATION all of these views will prolong pain and suffering and keep one in the VICTIM ROLE. It is not to say these are not how you feel. I appreciate your view, it is afterall YOUR JOURNEY.
REFRAME:
Consider the short time 10 weeks is in the scheme of the rest of your life. Consider 10 wks of medifast as a small price to pay for a gift to truly have the opportunity to be healthier! See the wt loss as a GIFT to yourself, that you DESERVE, see this as a CHALLENGE vs a difficulty. Wtite the reasons to stict to this, the closer to an ideal BW you will be after WLS, the healtheri you will be going into surgery, the lower risk of complications/death due to this improved health (shrinking abdmonial/visceral fat, shrinking liver).
You are tapping into some IMPORTANT emotions here, ones that will only fester and grow along the way as you have WLS. These are excellent opportunities to work on your emotional issues if you choose w/o leaning soley on food. *YES I mean journaling, medittion, therapy etc*.
Having WLS is the first step but only the first step, these issues will only intensify after and actually do NOT go away after WLS no matter what we wish for or hope for. The rest of our lives is a long time to live a healthy lifestyle, we will have to exercise, make healthy hoices, take suppliments, see health care providers FOREVER after WLS to be successful and HEALTH or we could trade obesity for malnutrition which is just as deadly. These challenges are great opportunities/lessons for us all, if we do not learn them, we will just have to learn them later, over and over again they will pop up I truly believe. So don't look at 10 wk as waste or hard its just training for the rest of your life!!!
For ME, it was "no one" was going to stop me from having this operation, it was my decision and all that was asked of me was to loose 30 lbs, I figured this is a small price for such a wonderful gift I would be given and the opportunity to have a healthier happier longer life....! I was so motivated/psyched; I dropped 30 pounds in 30 days and went on to drop 15 more before surgery! (Although this took me 2 months, as it got harder and I had a few last meals, we all do but you can't let this ruin your opportunity!) . I tried to turn my anger and sadness into gratitue as much as I could. I am not perfect, no one is but we can all challenge ourselves!
I also had to remind myself how BAD I wanted this! Everyday it was/had to be more important to me to change my bad habits and lose weight to have this surgery than to continue to slowly kill myself with food/keep myself from the only hope I had!. I also told everyone about my plans and they helped support me, my friends/family and coworkers! I really can't give you any more guidance than this, it really had to come from within, it was a mindset with me, and I wanted this BAD real bad and I knew it was my last resort/chance! I felt invigorated and motivated by the end results...the long-term had to outweigh the short-term gratification of eating bad choices or overeating! It was a learning opportunity for me to change my habits and practice chewing well, not drinking with meals and eating smaller portions, giving up sugar/caffeine/carbonation/alcohol (if any of those are your issues, carbonation/caffeine/alcohol weren't issues for me)! FOCUS on what you can do, ot how you are limited. This often lessens the challenge....See how far u have come as others said you're doing it 90% that is AWESOME!
It takes extraordinary courage to make the decision and live w/ the choices we make to consciously limit food choices for the rest of our lives (and potentially limit social opportunities built around meals) among all the other potential complications it can bring short or longterm....
I hope you are able to make the reframe on the preop wt loss diet, and see it not as a diet/number goal/lenght of time solely but rather just a few steps in your million mile journey to health and long-term success; which WLS is one of the million as well *it is not the destination*! Those that have goals that are health focused and functionally focused do the best (vs. those that are scale or weight/number focused). I am such a firm believer in not allowing the scale (or hunkametal that it is) to rule or dictate ones life/thoughts/feelings any longer, I agree we want to lose wt but gaining our health and ability to function in life are far more important than any number the scale can read; otherwise if it never reads the number we think, others say, a chart suggests we fail and that is simply not true!!! Most of our lives we have set RIGID, UNREALISTIC WEIGHT LOSS GOALS for ourselves that are BOTH UNATTAINABLE and CHRONICALLY DISAPPOINTING and lead to DEVASTATION & the slippery slope of self-sabotage....So viewing the wt loss as a natural result of LIVING life in healthier ways...it is the UNDERLYING lifestyle change such as exercise, food choices, self-awareness/monitoring, avoidance of emotional eating, adherence to living self responsibly in a CONSISTENT way that is the foundation to our long-term success. ***THE GOAL SHOULD NEVER BE A NUMBER*** These choices are what makes WLS work long-term and not be another 1 year failed diet attempt (and believe me it is for MANY!)...It is a wonderful tool to build the foundation and sadly one that has a short honeymoon period for working/helping build that foundation...a mere 6 months for many, up to a 24 mo or so period..when 'if' the foundation wasn't build w/ all the needed 'supports' of diet/exercise/lifestyle changes, coping skills etc for non-emotional eating (i.e through individual therapy, support groups) it can collapse and the WLS tool if not used properly/consistently can be defeated w/o the extra supporting structures...Like having only one wall of your basement in place before putting the house on top.. what happens? it can crumble w/ the weight of the house (your life/the worlds challenges), but if you have the 4 walls in place (food choices/planning/healthy and consistent choices, exercise, self awareness/monitoring, support); then the WLS tool can just reinforce that foundation and make the house stand strong for a long long time!
If you can focus on all u can do to build this foundation now and not the 10 wks medifast they want, it will pass even quicker/less painfully, we can only influence our wt so much and the body is ultimately in control! So control what u can your PERCEPTION!
~~~~~~~
A lot of times we say we will be happy when... (fill in the blank) resisting the here and now, living in the past or future. Focusing on the NOW and working towrd acceptance of what is and learning to slowly and gently love ourselves as we are this moment goes a long way as well in our perceptions, mood and happiness.
Maybe use positive thinking such as:
"I AM COMMITTED TO FACE AND RESOLVE THE PROBLEMS OF LIVING" (i.e. no longer be morbidly obese)
"MY SUCCESS DEPENDS UPON MY CHOICES AND MY BEHAVIOR IN THE PRESENT" (i.e. having the surgery, committing to a healthy lifestyle)
PS I'd love to be an email buddy if it'd help
[email protected]
Take Care,
Jamie
Lap RNY 10/9/02 Dr. Singh
320/163 5'9'' (lost 45# before surgery)
Plastics 6/9/04 & 11/11/2005 Dr. King
"Being happy doesn't mean everything's perfect, it just means you've decided to see beyond the imperfections!" Jamie,
Thank you for your post. I am determined to suceed. After i left work yesterday I went back to my Gym. I haven't been there since i started work in feburary, I was working from 8am-6:30. this really left me no time to do anything. i have readjusted my work hours and I plan to make a commitment to go back to the gym to start excersing again. I felt really good when i was going daily. I have also placed a picture of me up in my cubicle to remind me what my goal is and why I am doing this. I think yesterday was me hitting rock bottom with my eatting issues. how pathetic is it that i hid so i could eat that cookie. I have brought in a 2.5 gallon bottle of water and have it on my desk to keep myself hydrated so that i am not getting so hungry, I am learning that your body reads thirst as hunger. this is hard to remind myself. But i have been drinking alot today and drinking my shakes when i am suppost to. I am determined to do this and be suscessful.
Jamie D.
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