Describing myself

Barbara C.
on 11/8/08 6:00 am - Raleigh, NC

I was going to meet someone that I had never met before and she asked me to describe myself. I was a little 'stumped' because I was searching for terms that match up to what I look like and what was coming to mind wasn't matching... I used to describe myself as a 'heavyset woman with short auburn hair,' but that obviously doesn't describe me anymore. Then I thought okay, no I'm really an 'average sized woman with short auburn hair,' but then I realized that while I might be on the smaller side of 'normal' sized, I'm not anywhere near the 'average' size 12/14. So then I thought well, I don't see myself as thin, slender or petite, so how do I describe myself? I posed this to my friend and she said you ARE thin... even skinny. I was surprised. I showed he my chest and said, no I don't think I'm thin ... I don't have my ribs showing through my chest. I have tummy rolls. I'm not fat, but I don't see myself as thin either.

So, how do you describe yourself? How do you see yourself?

Barb

Barbara
ObesityHelp Coach and Support Group Leader
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High-264, Current-148, Goal-145

ibeanniebe
on 11/8/08 6:16 am - NM
That's just one more to think about as we are shrinking isn't it? And those of you that have already finished shrinking I can't wait to hear how you solved this dilema.
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Barbara C.
on 11/8/08 7:34 am - Raleigh, NC

I think it's an evolutionary process... If I 'figure it out', I'll let you know.

Barb

Barbara
ObesityHelp Coach and Support Group Leader
http://www.obesityhelp.com/group/bcumbo_group/
High-264, Current-148, Goal-145

Jason S.
on 11/8/08 8:33 am, edited 11/8/08 8:35 am - Williamston, NC
"I'll be the one with the sexy glow and surrounded by the ladies..."  LOL

Sorry, just had to.  I was just thinking about this the other day.  I still "see" myself as an obese individual, even to the point of doing double-takes in the mirror.  It's going to take me a while, a lifetime of being the "fat boy" doesn't shed as quickly as the pounds came off. 
Barbara C.
on 11/8/08 9:00 am - Raleigh, NC

LOL ... You made me smile!

I think that you are so right. I have noticed that when I look at myself in the mirror, I am sort of getting used the new reflection, but when I 'catch' my reflection in passing a window or mirror I am still often very surprised at what I see. My head has not yet sync'd with the reality. I wonder how long it takes. I know that I was a chubby kid, who became a fat teen, who became an obese adult, who became morbidly obese ... So, like you I've live most of my life and all of my adult life as a 'big girl.' so I guess it might take more than a few months to reprogram my thought patterns.

 

Barbara
ObesityHelp Coach and Support Group Leader
http://www.obesityhelp.com/group/bcumbo_group/
High-264, Current-148, Goal-145

Jason S.
on 11/8/08 9:14 am, edited 11/8/08 9:16 am - Williamston, NC

That's usually when it happens to me too Barb!  I recently took a part time job at a local furniture store.  Everyone there must think I'm the most vain person they've ever met!  I'll walk by the bedroom groups and stop in my tracks and stare at the image in the mirrors, LOL!  My mind starts to tell me "Darn, I look different", "If I could just lose the little bit of stomach I've got left"  (Sucking it in and running my hands up and down from my chest to my waist, inadvertently), "My pants fit in the waist, but I could put 12 weeks worth of groceries in the rear", "I wonder..." (This is when I realize what I'm doing and see half a dozen customers and 3-4 employees staring at me wondering if they should call 911. 

I do all of this without really realizing it.  I'm just so taken back by the image in the mirror as opposed to what I have in my head.

The-K-Gal
on 11/8/08 8:51 pm - NC
   Jason you are 2 ways of crazy!


   
 
  
momto3boyz
on 11/8/08 9:15 am - Hampstead, NC
Barb when you unlock the secret code let me know. I was a big girl who turned into and fat teen who turned into a decent young woman who turned into a severly obese mom. I still seemyself as a huge woman. I even to this day still don't like to eat in front of other people because I always fear they are thinking..."look at the fat girl eat" or who is she kidding orderin a small plate you know she can eat 3xs that much! .. Anyways I guess we will learn to deal with it in time. 34 years of people making fun of me takes awhile to rid from the mind.



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deb_m
on 11/8/08 9:57 am - Sanford, NC
 Oh my Gosh, I never thought about it!  I have NO idea!!!

I certainly wouldn't call myself thin either, but I guess some might see it that way.  I guess I would stick with the 5' 5", curly hair (usually) description, but I would honestly have a hard time saying I was thin or even average!  I guess I can wait a little longer before I have that problem again...now I can say I'm the one with the slightly bulging belly.  ;)
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Barbara C.
on 11/8/08 10:19 am - Raleigh, NC

Isn't that great!!! How are you feeling? Has the fatigue eased at all?

Barb

By the way, if I were to describe you I would say that your were the "slender, brunette with fabulous curls, sparkling eyes, and an electric smile."

Barbara
ObesityHelp Coach and Support Group Leader
http://www.obesityhelp.com/group/bcumbo_group/
High-264, Current-148, Goal-145

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