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Not a good day!!!

1st. laptop broke!
2nd. im stuck at 226
3rd. I almost up chucked for being stupid
4th. My kidneys are messing up!
5th. My head is KILLING me

Its one of them ALL AROUND BAD DAYS!


I need cheering up but i got one thing thats good

Me and my ex of 2 years broke up about 3 months ago in a very bad way! Well i met a guy the day of my surgery bc i bumped into him in the hall and spilled my moms coffee on him lol! Well we have been seeing each other since and i gotta say im young and i never felt so happy not even when my ex asked me to marry him! I really like this guy and he accepts what i did and he spent time coming to see me at night so my mom could go home and sleep! I must be luck but theres one thing he is 22 and has a kid and been married but isnt anymore! I wanna no from yall what yall think? I no this is about weight loss but I love all yall advice so i need some now!!! Im 18 a girl needs help!

love yall

thanks for listening as always!

Well, I'm not big on advice.  But I am into common sense.

1) Broke laptop.  At least computers are cheaper these days if you have to replace it.  A good computer guru might be able to figure it out for less than $100.                                                                                                        2) Stuck.  That sucks, but it happens.  Honestly look at what you are doing.  You may have to change things up a little,  ie: increase your exercise, you may need fewer calories (or sometimes MORE).                                                3)  Upchucking through stupidity.  Well, you know the answer to this one       4)  Kidneys.  See your doc.                                                                    5)  Headache.  Tylenol? Stronger drugs? 

Relationship advice.  I'm the wrong person to ask.  I met the love of my life when I was 16.  He asked me to marry him 4 hours after we met.  I didn't say yes right away, but I knew he was the one.  We were married 2 weeks after I turned 18.  We have been married for 43 years.  Good luck and follow your heart!                                                  

I'm sorry that your laptop broke. We never really realize how much we rely on them until they break. I hope that you are able to get it fixed soon.

It's normal to hit a wall about now. Be sure that you are getting in all of your protien and suppliments and that you are staying hydrated. Make sure that you are getting 'enough' calories. Most programs have a threshold that they want you to hit. Mine was 900 a day, because you have to get enough calories to keep your body from going into starvation mode and keep burning the fat reserves. Be sure that you are getting out there and moving. Go for a 30 minute walk each day. When the scale isn't moving be sure that you are using the tape measure. Often the tape measure will show progress that the scales aren't showing. Hang in there, stay with the program and you will see results.

It takes everyone a while to learn how to navigate the pouch and eating too much and/or too fast can make you sick. Don't worry, it's a learning process and you'll get better at it.

I'm sorry to hear that you are having problems with your kidneys. That's serious. Be sure to work closely with your Dr. to do all that you can to preserve the health of those very precious resources.

Sometimes you can develop headaches as a side effect or symptom of dehydration. Be sure that you are well hydrated. You can also develop a headache if you aren't getting in enough protien/calories, so be sure that you are getting enough of those in too. If your headaches continue, please call your Dr for their advise because it's not normal.

Re: you love life ... Hmmmm.... I'd say that so far it sounds like he's been a pretty nice guy, but you need to take it SLOWLY. You are experiencing enormous life changes right now. You will need to do a lot of soul searching and growing up as you go through this experience ... this isn't just because you are 18, I'm 50 and have been married over 30 years and am having to do the same. What I'm saying is that you are more vulnerable now and need to be focusing your energy on you, developing the skills you will need to not only strip off the excess weight, but also to develop ways to identify dangerous behavior that might undermine your long term success and find coping mechanisms to manage it so that you don't end up where you started. You want to be able to maintain that focus right now. It sounds like he's a nice guy that has made some mistakes in life. I hope that like you, he's working to discover why he made the decisions and choices that got him where he is now and what changes he has made or is going to make to ensure that his future relationships are healthier and can sustain the rigors of time. So I hope that you don't hear me saying that seeing him is a bad thing, but remember that you are each seeing other through the rosy glow of the rose colored glasses that new love brings. It takes time for that 'rosy glow' to disapate, so that you can truly see each other through the 'clear light of day.' You need to be sure that you go slowly so that you both see each other in the 'clear light of day.' Hopefully, even without the rose colored glasses of a new relationship, you will still like what you see in one another.

Barb ... aka Dear Abby

 

Thanks for the advice! I woke up this morning feeling alot better other then the fact my throat is sore and my nose is all EWW but i got on the scale and i jumped for joy i hit 224!!!

i feel so much better!!!

but im having a hard time using the bathroom

love yall

Time to go work out!

Girlfriend,

#1 Laptop, I agree it can be fixed or replaced.

#2 Stuck, Looks like that worked itself out!

#3 Stupid, Nah,  maybe just not thinking through what ya ate, Never say you'er stupid! Sometimes we are just uninformed or unthinking!

#4 Kidneys are touching and you only have two.  I also have kidney problems and see a urologist at Duke.  Please take time to see a urologist it is very important.  There are some things you can live without your kidneys aren't one of them.

#5 Headache, meditate, and try to calm down.  Then if your head still hurts take a pain pill!

Last but not least, take your time.  I met my DH of 38 years when I was 14, we dated all through high school and got married 1 year after I graduated. (that means we dated for 5 years)  We were both sure that we would get married eventually, but we took our time about it!  I think that is why we are still together and have made it through so many difficult times. 

Slow down....... you are only 18 you have lots of time left to do all the things you want to.  Enjoy each part of your life! Don't try to do everything at once.

As for the relationship I can tell you one little bit of advice. You will know if it is working out like it is supposed to. It may be his second time around but then consider he will most likely be wanting to not get too involved or a bit scared himself. Its not against the rules either to have a good conversation with him about his former relationship. The problem with that is that if will most likely be a bit one sided since most people like to tell a version that makes them look better than the ex spouse. Taking your time and not rushing into this hard and fast will at least give you time to make decisions on him and you as well. I have been in three marriages in my life and it took me two times to get the third one right. My wife and I will be married 11 years this december. Outside of an excellent relationship we dont argue alot, give each other space as needed, and have varied interests. You have a long life ahead of you and he is not so much older. One other thing is to meet his child as well. The child may not live with you if you all do make a more permanent situation but it would be a plus if you both got along ok. If you get bad feed back from most any of the above and you cant resolve it then move on. Its not worth taking forever to make you or him miserable. I do wish you the best in the endeavor.

I have met his little boy and he ran and huged me and FLIRTED with me he is 3

Girl... I think that you are young, beautiful and on the road the finally discovering your true self.

You have done such a brave thing by having surgery. You are going to go through so many changes over the next year. I think if you really like this guy... keep it casual. You need to focus on yourself and really appreciate the changes you are going through this year. If he is a good friend to you through out... then Wonderful! If he pressures you to take things a little faster then you will know that he is not the one for you.

What is the worst that can happen? You build a friendship and that may turn into something or you realize that you do not need him after all.

Good luck in your decision!

We are just friends right now and his mama told him .. he better take it slow bc i my ex did me wrong and im kinda scared!