miss me???
so Im leaving this time for good...some of you are the nicest folks I have ever met. and I am very thankful for the support I recieved when I needed it.
as I have decided NOT to come back here I thought I would let it all out.
when I came online here it was to find someone...anyone from this area I could talk to and ask stupid questions about my upcomming surgery...I did not ask for an angel...I have a wonderfully supportive family(hubby and kids)...BUT I wasso touched when someone volenteered to be my support angel
that feeling went by the wayside many times over as phone calls and e-mails went unanswered
I have always tried very hard to treat others as I would like to be treated. and I have not said anything about posts not answered in the whats happening area when I tried to participate....
I have always tried to post upbeat things to all...even those who have ignored me and tried to make me feel insignificant. if you find offense in my words than perhaps you are feeling guilty about your VERY clickish ways.
although I havent been online for almost 3 months I spent tonight catching up and found that really nothing has changed. yes wonderful friendships have been formed here...BUT some of you ladies are downright rude and insulting to those who dont seem to "fit"
unfortunatly for those who feel the same way I do we all fit here...THIS is suppose to be a WLS support forum for MO.
I had hoped this board would be a positive force in my life...at times it has been...mostly I have been dissapointed that I had no place here.
so this is my fare thee well post. I am lucky to belong to several forums where my friends have called me and wrote me to let me know although I wasnt online I was still thought about...I think Ill spend my time there. Im not angry with anyone...mostly I feel sad. but for those who thought I wasnt worth the effort ...its your loss!
I hope those of you who run the show around here treat those to come with better care...
there are those *****ally have no one to help them through the WLS ride and could use real understanding and compassion. not judgement and being ignored.
God Bless all of our WLS wannabes and bench sitters! the ride is bumpy but well worth the trip!
Lynette/nutti
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LYNETTE, i have sent you email on top of emails and they have come back and come back...for months and months now. even when you were posting i sent you emails that came back. i didnt know if you had moved or what , the last time that we did hear from you , that was the thought then that you were moving to Fla. and if you posted on the whats happening board i know i did answer you.
i have thought about you often but had no way of getting hold of you. i didnt have your phone number either. I am sorry that i didnt put out more effort but there are so many people that come on the board and stay for the time that they need us and then leave...just today Kat that hasnt been on the board but one or two times since she had surgery came back on. I dont push myself on people when i dont get an answer back or if my emails come back then i cant spend a lot of time on it , im sorry but i write and answer anywhere from 10 to 50 emails a day plus to the post on here plus the Circle of Friends meetings. i sleep on the average of 4 hours a night because i spend most of my nights answering emails and such. Im not trying to make excuses for myself and i am very very sorry if i have offended you. i have thought about completlly quitting all of it but havent yet.i dont answer a lot of other post on the board because i just dont have time. i try to welcome new ones but i know some slip by me...i have always enjoyed your post and loved watching you go down the weight ladder. i am very sorry about anything i did or didnt do to you or for you. i hope you reconsider and stay with us.
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GOD BLESS YOU TODAY
JAN COOK
And as Jan said people come and people go and we respect there rights to do so, but we are here for each other and do love each other very much and you are important and we all do love you so here is a big (hug) and good luck what ever road you may take...vesta
nene1940
Lap RNY ~ 4/22/2003
5'0" ~253 starting wt. 130 lb loss!
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Extended Tummy Tuck with KU Residency Program
01/08/2010 ....Lost another 7 lbs with TT.
Dear Nutti,
I AM very sorry to hear your leaving. I KNOW for a fact that this post is aimed at myself for one-but YOU DO NOT know ALL of the cir****tances-for you to get angry and just throw away the WHOLE group-that makes ME feel sorry.
I have lost 3 loved ones this year, been through I dont even know how many freaking phones, medical problems you could not imagine, and a seperation....I too, emailed you and got them returned-and to be honest-I thought they were returned because you blocked me-because I would see you post after that and I would try again. Email is the easiest way for me, (at the time) because I had cell phone issues for at least 6 months. I could text and I had to wait to get to someones place to check voice mails because my freaking microphone, speaker part of my phone was broke. I did NOT have the means to replace the phone, so I did with what I had at the time.
If you went back through enough posts-I HAVE asked about you in MIAs posts. When I got this last phone-I did not, and do not-have your phone number. I do NOT know where you live, only that its fairly close to the old McCune hospital and I do NOT know where you work. That being said-I have been going through some major stuff lately and havent really reached out to anybody. I have very few people who KNOW everything going on here and yes, that is MY fault-but I would have rather have you called me out PERSONALLY than to get upset with everyone on the board-and I will admit that I have NOT been the best at reaching out lately.
I would hope that you wouldnt take it out on everybody what is clearly aimed at me. Im also sorry if you feel that I failed you as an angel-I guess its true in this cir****tance too-that you cannot be what everyone needs, all the time-Im just sorry that someone that I really think highly of-didnt/doesnt feel that they are cared enough for-and like I said-I WILL take my own personal blows for that. Im sorry that you feel I failed you and I hope to God that you NEVER have to have the year I have had-and not have understanding around you.
Sincerely, Janet
Girl, I dont blame you one bit!! I feel the same way about the clicks... For one reason or another I also feel that I dont belong... I dont know if it is because I live in the bible belt and ppl dont seem to like my tattoos.. Or what?? Honestly, I dont care!! I am here for support which I do sometimes get... usually dont anymore. But, I try to still come here but when I dont get the support then whats the use? I am glad that I have your # and can and do keep in touch with you. I don't know why ppl cant leave you messages as I leave them just fine... Maybe, it is a system error? Kind of strange I can but others cant??? LOL Whatever... I just want you to know you can always talk to me about whatever and it doesnt always have to be WLS, but I am here for ya... Do you have my yahoo? Well, you also know how to contact me on myspace. Keep your head up and dont let any of these ppl get to you. I dont. I feel like I have made ALOT of positive improvements since the surgery both physically and mentally... But, noone seems to care. Either way, we are lifelong friends and call me anytime!!((HUGZ))
Lori
Lori,
First, would like to say that I have tattoos-as well as several others, Lana-Renee-Sheila-they even have more than I-AND....I have showed mine off at group. I didnt even know you had tattoos-as well as others, Im sure~so not sure how or why that would come into play here?
I am one that your insinuating is lying about emailing nutti-and I do NOT appreciate it! There have been too many of us who have gotten them back-for months and months off and on-so are you going to say that we are all liars? Maybe YOU should have ALL the facts before you call us liars! I do not take kindly to someone that doesnt even know me, calling ME names-OR the others who have had the same issues!
Im glad YOU can be supportive to Nutti and be what she needs. Im sorry that neither of you can get what you need or what from the MO Board. That does make me sad-considering that on my prayer chain-sit prayers for yourself, your son, your friend whose son almost died (etc etc)-and then also for Nutti, and her family, when Dean lost his job and so on and so forth. Im very sorry you guys dont get what you need here-but calling names and picking on people, starting crap-isnt the way to get what you say you need. I really do pray for you that you can find someplace that gives you what you need. Janet
