Done Obsessing about the number........
Seems that this week is the week to dig deep inside of ourselves and confront the demons that are always present trying to sabatoge our efforts. Number 1 problem for me has always been about the number. I need to weigh 150 pounds or I am a failure. I did not reach my goal so therfore I was not successful. DONE!!!!! My weight has been bouncing between 151 & 154 for about 4 weeks and guess what. I am at my ideal weight on the Dr.'s chart and LA Fitness so that is what it will be. I am officially at goal and now will enter the toughest phase of this whole process. Something I have never done before......maintain my weight loss. I have started a walking program everyday and have committed to run in the pool for 5 laps to begin with and work my way up to whatever number I deem the right number. See here we are with the number again. This has been a very hard decision for me to make and I just hope I can stick with it but knowing me, that will be a challenge. The thought of counseling has crossed my mind but I don't know of anyone I want to see. I did not connect with the Pre-op counselor so that is out. If anyone knows of a good counselor well versed in our journey please let me know. My track record of maintained weight loss is 100% on my own...No wins all loses. I am not naive enough to think I can do this by myself. Coffee and this board help alot but I guess I need to get inside my brain and see why I can't ever maintain a weight loss. Thanks for listening and for all of the support you have given me on this journey. I love you all!
Hugs,
Bonnie
Hugs,
Bonnie
Oh Bonnie do I understand! I think Sandy N Barb and Troy will too... I had a number in my head and I had to be it.
When presented with maintaining... I was seriously perplexed. How does one do that? Losing I got.... gaining DUH got that one.. but staying one weight????
I learned its trial and error...one week up abit? Evaluate and cut back.... I found my caloric intake that keeps me at my weight. But it took a few months.
I would suggest tracking so you can see where it went up or when it went down.....
Youll get it... and I totally understand the number thing. But I think if we could be made to take our old weight back for two or three days we would beg for our old numbers ( the now weights) back!
Remember where you came from!! You have done an amazing job Bonnie! Cut yourself some slack.
Hugs!
When presented with maintaining... I was seriously perplexed. How does one do that? Losing I got.... gaining DUH got that one.. but staying one weight????
I learned its trial and error...one week up abit? Evaluate and cut back.... I found my caloric intake that keeps me at my weight. But it took a few months.
I would suggest tracking so you can see where it went up or when it went down.....
Youll get it... and I totally understand the number thing. But I think if we could be made to take our old weight back for two or three days we would beg for our old numbers ( the now weights) back!
Remember where you came from!! You have done an amazing job Bonnie! Cut yourself some slack.
Hugs!
Start Weight - 263
Current Weight 135 and making it work for ME !
Unfortunately -- you will NEVER escape numbers.
First -- let's see -- you are how tall?? 150-155 for your height is perfect!!!! And it has only been 6 months -- look how far you have come!!!!! I've said this before -- next time you go to the grocery store (take someone with you), pick up the weight you've lost in softener salt and carry it with you the entire time you are there. Can't set it down, can't put it back.....that's what you USED to carry around all the time. Talk about a work out -- and what a huge WOW!!!!
Second -- what is maintaining?? ~~~ More of the same!! And I'm soooooo there with you......I try to maintain between 125-130. If I drop below, I increase with an extra something, something -- nuts, protein bar, peanut butter, extra ounce of meal's protein. If I go over the 127 mark, I cut back on what I might have been doing -- maybe too many carbs or fat in something I ate. It is a balancing act. Experimenting with more numbers but in a different way.
My biggest suggestion to you now is -- track, track, track......track everything you eat. Doesn't matter if it is fitday.com or dailyplate.com -- Just track it......And keep measuring everything!!!! You need to find your balance. Protein, fat, carbs and calories -- while trying to watch sugar if you dump from it. Whole new challenge with the numbers. Still do protein first, but you can add more fat, more carbs and calories. Not being in loss mode, you can now find your "normal" balance.
But great job on the weight loss -- the first six months is the easiest -- Now comes the life long lifestyle change.......Here's where your commitment and dedication to the program REALLY begins.
We are ALL here for you -- good or bad, agree or disagree, we all go through the same thing......
XXOO
First -- let's see -- you are how tall?? 150-155 for your height is perfect!!!! And it has only been 6 months -- look how far you have come!!!!! I've said this before -- next time you go to the grocery store (take someone with you), pick up the weight you've lost in softener salt and carry it with you the entire time you are there. Can't set it down, can't put it back.....that's what you USED to carry around all the time. Talk about a work out -- and what a huge WOW!!!!
Second -- what is maintaining?? ~~~ More of the same!! And I'm soooooo there with you......I try to maintain between 125-130. If I drop below, I increase with an extra something, something -- nuts, protein bar, peanut butter, extra ounce of meal's protein. If I go over the 127 mark, I cut back on what I might have been doing -- maybe too many carbs or fat in something I ate. It is a balancing act. Experimenting with more numbers but in a different way.
My biggest suggestion to you now is -- track, track, track......track everything you eat. Doesn't matter if it is fitday.com or dailyplate.com -- Just track it......And keep measuring everything!!!! You need to find your balance. Protein, fat, carbs and calories -- while trying to watch sugar if you dump from it. Whole new challenge with the numbers. Still do protein first, but you can add more fat, more carbs and calories. Not being in loss mode, you can now find your "normal" balance.
But great job on the weight loss -- the first six months is the easiest -- Now comes the life long lifestyle change.......Here's where your commitment and dedication to the program REALLY begins.
We are ALL here for you -- good or bad, agree or disagree, we all go through the same thing......
XXOO
Fitness is not about age or a size -- it's really about an attitude and life style!!!
Life is not measured by the number of breathes we take, but by the moments that take our breathe away~~
Numbers are evil. Necessary to an extent, but evil. What size are you wearing? A number. How do your clothes fit? Just a feeling. But so much of this journey IS about feeling - feeling healthy, feeling lighter, feeling happier, feeling NORMAL... So as long as you FEEL good where you are, try not to give a number so much power over you!
Did that make ANY sense?
Oh - and btw, I'm STILL waiting on a biker chick avatar...
Did that make ANY sense?
Oh - and btw, I'm STILL waiting on a biker chick avatar...
Imperfect does not = unsuccessful
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