OT: Personal attack on me & my faith at lunch

My sister thinks she read The DaVinci Code and thought it was non-fiction!  I have lots of apologetics info from a class I took last summer, so if she insists on debating this matter I am prepared, however I will keep you in mind should I need any help!  I too hope to not have this problem continue tomorrow or any day in the future!

Nicole,

Remember, no matter what anyone else says or does.. YOU have to make the decisions that are right for you. If you feel you did the right thing with Musa, (and I believe you did) then don't let anyone else try to make you second guess that. It is easy for others to judge, when they have not walked in your shoes, because they will never truely know what you are feeling.

As far as the religion thing goes.. kind of sounds like she was trying to back off.. give her credit for that.. and I also agree.. religion can and is a very touchy subject for many people.

Hope this helps.

Love ya

Thank you Diane!  I know too that I made the right decision and since they were not there and were not privy to the discussions they did not understand what I was getting from him.  That and they even thought I was too conservative, because I said no talk about intimacy until 3 months.  Oh, well I am glad that tomorrow is a new day and hopefully all will be well!  Love & Hugs! Nicole

Good for You hun- Stand strong in your faith!   As others have said, perhaps not a good topic of convo with those people, but a great reminder that they need your prayers.  And do not let others push you into anything you do not want to do with Musa- You are an adult and you can make your own decission regarding him- Best Wishes hun- I will say a prayer for you

Hugs,

CheriLynn

Thank you CheriLynn!  I greatly appreciate the prayers and I am hoping to avoid any talk about religion in the future.  Lov e& Hugs! Nicole

First of all I want to commend you for standing up for your beliefs and christianity in general.   There are a lot of people out there that would just sit back and not say anything.   You are a wonderful person even though I don't know you I feel it in your posts.   Don't let them stop you from going to lunch hold your head high because you are wonderful...show it!!   I think you did the best thing by ceasing the contact with him.   I dated someone of a different religion for a few months and it was very hard...I was also married for 8 yrs to a man that said he was christian but would never attend church with me and our children...saying Sundays were his days for rest and or football.   I am now married to a man who shared my faith and is probably even more involved in our church life than I am.   It's wonderful to share that.   I agree with some of the others .....it sounds like that woman needs a few prayers....that God help her to understand and open her eyes to what christianity is all about.   I don't blame you for feeling attacked...I'm sure I would feel the same way.   Just know that you are entitled to your beliefs and this is a free country.    Keep your chin up and smile...it'll make people wonder what you're up to LOL

Thank you Michelle!  I smile a lot anyways now adays so if I smiled even more they might really worry what I am up to!  I know what I did regarding Musa including how I did it was the right choice, and no matter how much these other people feel that I "owe" him an explination I am not going down that road.  My sister and her husband are having the problem with him not wanting anything to do with church, it is really hard on their relationship because my sister like me has a very strong faith and for both of us it is the cornerstone in batteling our depression.  I am glad to hear that you have found a wonderful man who you can share your love and faith with.  The strength I have comes from my faith, because without it my life was a mess and I was a doormat!

Well - I'm gonna be a bad guy (gal) so here is a warning if you don't want to read it.

If you brought up his being Muslim then she had every right to bring up religion in the conversation - even if it is a sore spot for you!  It was brought up by whoever decided that his being Muslim had ANYTHING to do with him and the relationship.  Religion does NOT make a person.  It sounds to me as if you brought up the religious aspect and when someone diagreed with you you got very defensive and hurt. 
You have every right to feel hurt and angry or whatever it is your feeling.  However you did not have any right to get upset about the religion aspect being brought into it *if* if was brought up by you first.

Also - after studing theology in school I can tell you and in the Catholic religion - priests were allowed to marry for quite a long time.  However when the church started losing money they found that the priests were leaving behind all worldly goods to their famlies and not the church.  So because of that ( sorry to say ) is why the church really started to say that priests couldn't marry.  (and not that it matters - but I'm Catholic)

Just remember the only thing that matters for you is what YOU believe. It is a very hard topic, religion, because everyone has a different take on it even if they are the same religion. I think you did the right thing, getting up and leaving. You know your faith and that is what counts. Just dont let them get you upset for too long, its not worth it to dwell on it, that only adds fuel to the fire in your mind. Tomorrow is a new day and hopefully will go much better for you.

Alannah