How long does it take to believe when people say you are beautiful?

Okay, has ANYONE else had this problem? This is totally new to me.... Since I have been heavy all my life all I have ever heard is... you have a great personality...(we have all heard that one being heavy) but have also heard all the mean comments.... ugly, dog, slob, lazy... etc.

Now.... and this is really wierd to me, it seems I attract some kind of attention.... especially from the opposite sex, where ever I go.....this morning is a good example. I am staying at motel 6 in Rochester and I had to go down to the office and get my coffee.... both the maintenance guy, and the front desk guy... both much younger then me... flirted with me....(at least I am finally realizing when THIS is happening.) It still blows my mind.

Then late last night.... Gorden and I had talked about, and decided to get web cams for when we talk online.. since he is in Italy right now, and international roaming has to be killing him..(still calls me 2 or 3 times a day.) Anyway, when I hooked mine up last night and got it to go thru to him.... he kept going on about how beautiful I am.... it blew my mind.... This is someone who see's all the beautiful women in both California, and Italy... and thinks I am beautiful......I was actually a little afraid to do this because as many of you know... real time, is a little different then pictures...

So has anyone else had this issue? Am I wierd?

Diane,

I understand. Marlin says I am beautiful, so much more than b4 surgery 3 years ago. But I still see the fat girl in my head. In the mirror I see the thinner face, collarbones etc and the med/large instead of 3x clothes.

You are human, for some of us it just seems to take longer for the truth to be ingrained into our heads. I'll tell ya when I am finally convinced.

Karen

Karen,

I agree.. the fat girl with in may always cry out to me.. It's been there for almost 45 years, hard to change that way of thinking.... but I think I may make it.

Thanks for posting.

Diane~I can totally relate to this.  It still shocks me when I get compliments from people, especially those who don't know me.  Like last weekend at the reunion when the guy that I had never met before called me "cute as a button" I almost fell over, no one has ever said that to me before.  Also I get a lot more attention from the guys at work they all smile and say hello or ask how I am doing everytimewe walk past each other in the office.  I think this process takes a different amount of time for each person, but I believe that after a while you will believe what you hear and see in the mirror.  Love & Hugs, Nicole

Nicole,

Yep, it definately takes some getting use to.... by the way... you are not cute as a button.... you are cuter... Since I have met you I have watched you blossom so much.....You know... I don't think it is just the weight loss.. it is our change in attitudes.. WE are more outgoing. More approachable.... but yep... It will take some time to realize I am pretty......maybe even beautiful according to some.....

Thanks for posting

I think we all go through some of this...

It's hard to throw away the years of fatso... slob... but you have such a pretty face if only... etc.  now our bodies are catching up with the other parts that are gorgeous!

I like to think how very blessed we are - those of us that have had to struggle to improve out personalities just to be noticed etc...  just think as our bodies improve.. our personalities are already top notch!!  What a package we are!!  Plus if we keep our heads on right, we carry the understanding and caring for those who haven't made this journey yet.
Enjoy it honey and know that YES!  you ARE beautiful - in and out  :)

*hugs girlfriend!*

My very good friend Lori,

You are so right... I like you.... seemed to develop my personality, as I felt that was all I had... and now I find that personality is coming out more and more... and I hope I never lose the qualities that seems to still attract people.. both male and female.... I am attracting due to my appearance, but it seems my friends, again both male and female... say the things they love about me is my capacity for understanding, caring, loving, and most off all being able to accept people for who they all... to me.... that means the most to me....We all know looks only get us so far, and there are many, many beautiful people.. who are very shallow.... never want to be that.

Hugs to you Lori....By the way... how is PIA?

Diane...you are beautiful...inside and out!! Get used to the compliments there will be many more to follow!!

Hugs, connie d

Thank you Connie, but I will be honest.. I never want to get use to it... because I may take it for granted... don't want to do that.... ever....

Thanks my friend

Ummm.... yeah! I still have a hard time with it. It may take a bit more time before I think I may attract the opposite sex.

Hugs,
Lori