Sometimes when I read posts

I get so very jealous.  I read your posts about being frustrated with your spouses and I think about how lucky you are to have someone that loves you so very much.

I read your posts about saving money by not running the pump in your pools.  Pools have pumps?  I have no idea...I've never had one.

You eat out less?  Oh please.  I cannot eat out any less since I never eat out unless it's on a date and he's buying.

I read your posts complaining about the costs of your followup visits,  nutrition appts., etc.  Oh please.  Have your visited my profile lately?  My medical costs for this surgery are there.  What you don't see is the visits to my local doctor, prescriptions, travel costs to Bangor, etc.  And oh...by the way.  Did I mention my deductible is $5,000 and my total OOP is $10,000 annually?  I've spent nearly $14,000 in medical related expenses this year...and it's only October.  Did I also mention I bring home $950.00 monthly?

I get very jealous and yet I'm still happy.  I may not have someone to help me financially like those of you with spouses that earn an income or partners that won millions in the megabucks lottery but I'm still surviving.  Last year at this time I took in a border so that I could afford to heat my home.  I'm very fortunate to have found a wonderful person I can trust to share my home with.

Please don't feel sorry for me.  I'm a strong lady and I'll be just fine.  What I hope for you all is that you look at your lives and realize just how wonderful they are.  Stop complaining about what you don't have...be happy for what and who you have in your lives.

You misinterpreted my post.
Sorry.

It's okay Cheryl.  Have a happy day!

Hey Terri, I haven't heard from you in awhile....I was getting worried!!  You are a very strong woman, you have absolutely no reason to feel jealous, I too have my own problems.....I am a single mother who goes to school full-time, now am trying to get thru an internship with at least 32 hours a week, and work at night.....I have no real time with my son who just started kindergarten last month.  But I think of it this way.....I am working my ass off right now....and it will pay off when I graduate, which hopefully will be this December!!  My son is very understanding on why he doesn't see much of mommy, he stays with my parents most of the time, he also knows this is not going to last much longer......I have no spouse or a live-in to help me out.....I make the best out of what I have, and I know once I get through school things will get much better around here!!  Best of luck to you....aren't you glad you had this done??

i can agree with u i try not too be  jealous things in my life, i work a job which is not something i want too do , im so far over my head in debt , hurts everyday, but i dont think about the things i dont have or do have i just try too take it one day at a time!

im alive  and i try too smile even when im sad !

 

Caribou,
All of us have things in our lives we wish were better, different, changed. We are living in a time of incredible financial downturn, dare we say recession/depression? I am thankful for what I have and I will be the last person to complain about anyone but myself. I'm the only one I have the ability to change, and it's a work in progress, even 52 years out.

Please come in, tell us about your journey so far. How is your weight loss going? Have you been able to keep your surgery private? I remember you didn't tell many people.

I'm not sure what to say but, rest assured that things aren't always as wonderful as they may seem on this board!  I think we all struggle, especially with the economy as it is!  I know I am worried about heating our home, keeping the kids warm and fed, paying our bills, and paying for any other "incidentals" that may creep up (ie: had to have the furnace guy come over this week as our furnace wasn't starting up correctly.....it needs to be replaced, but, for now, we are just using "band-aids" and fixing it as we go along as we can't afford a new one!)  We struggle to make ends meet, we hardly ever eat out, I find clothes on sale and go to Goodwill and Salvation Army as often as I can (for myself and the kids).  It's really tough and things probably won't get any better anytime soon!

But, Yes, I have a nice life!  I thank my HEAVENLY FATHER DAILY for allowing me to have the wonderful life that I have!!   My husband and I have worked hard to get where we are and we will continue to work hard to give our family what it needs.  I am LUCKY!!!  I'll admit it!  I WISH everyone had all that I have been BLESSED with!   We are all at different places in our lives.   I am grateful....every day....for all that I have been allowed to have....a wonderful family, supportive friends, wonderful (though not perfect) children and husband, and enough money to squeak by.  My wish is for everyone to be as Blessed and grateful as I am!

Just a few thoughts!  Hope I didn't offend anyone.....that is NOT my intention!

Have a wonderful Saturday!
Ruth

I do have to say that I was taken aback by your post. I read what you said to Cheryl about misinterpreting it. But I've got to tell you I am single, I am struggling - I've lost every thing in my life and am in the process of rebuilding it and jealousy will get you no where fast.

There's a lot that I could say right now, but I am going to take you at your word that we are misinterpreting your post - but keep in mind, nobody's life if perfect or easy. Life is hard, period. You have to always work at it in one way or another.