So nervous....

I am soo nervous for 2morrow..   I gained back those 3lbs and have been working like crazy to get them off before tomorrow... I figuered doing 60 min instead of 40 would wake up my metabolism?? it hasnt yet    Also waiting to know what happens next... I know that I want to lose enough weight before so that i dont have to do the 2 week fasting liquid diet.... I just cant!  I would rather but my butt exersizing and dieting where i can have food other than not at all...

Also last nite my son was going to sleep over my grandmas cause it is just easier then to have to wake him up and take him over there in the mornin.... She made haddock for supper...(something my son has never had before)  He eats fish sticks and that is the most fish he eats! Well she got soo mad at him and told him never to come back and she wasnt going to let him come back.  So he called me crying that he wanted to come home, so I went and picked him up.... then yelled at her and told her that she needed to apologize for telling him that.  she said that she wasnt going to apologize to a 6yr old and that he needs to listen hes almost 7 and he doesnt like to eat anything.... So last year whenever i  made something for supper and he didnt like it he would call her to come and get him and he would go over there and she would make him whatever he wanted.  Also she would cook supper and if he didnt want it she would give him chicken nuggets...  when he gets outa school she gives him all kinds of stuff... then she expects him to eat good food??? yeah rite!  I only keep a certain # of snacks in my house that are called sweets.... and they are only allowed to have it after supper.  other than that when ever they want to have a snack they have to pick something else.  I feel soo bad for my poor kiddoo, he kept asking me " did meme really mean that i cant go see her anymore?"  I didnt know what to say...  She makes me soo mad sometimes.... My mom told me that she use to do that to me all the time.. and make me feel bad, so then i would eat more (bad stuff) to make her mad...  Normally when io get mad i would eat and eat.... and last nite i didnt! YAY  But i did cry for a while... man how people get to  you.....

(sorry so long just had to release the negative energy and guilt)

oiyyyy, boy, sorry you had to deal with that last night.  Grandma's can be that way, and I"m affraid I can be guilty of saying things i'm sorrry for later too.  My mom told my son, that since he wasn't baptized he was going to hell, he is 27 now and still remembers that.  AS you can see just by that remark,  why I have left the church.  I still believe in God, but my church failled me, in many ways, I won't go into.  anyway,  your grandma will come around, she probably won't even think she said what she said, and deny it.  On that note, teaching your kids to eat healthy can be a project in itself.  MY kids ate very very healthy, just ate too much of it.  so I guess that isnt' any better is it.  I NEVER bought chips, cookies or candy.  but they could eat 3 plates of meat, veg and pot.  just give it a few days and things will calm down, your under alot of stress right now with your appt tomorrow.  be careful today, It might be a hard day.  stay away from salt and carbs today, just eat protein, I usually will drop a few lbs if I do that.  dont' drink water or eat before your appt.  I'll feed you breakfast tomorrow.  Big Hugs for you too,  Cheryl

Hi there,
 Personally? (And some people won't agree with this I'm sure but that's okay lol) I find grandma's comment rather "over the top" and abusive. Yeah, i used the "a" word. Why? Because kids at that age take things so literally and she obviously impacted his sense of security and probably stoked the fears of abandonment that many kids have.
If it were me (and I realize, it's not) I would have a private talk with grandma and tell her that what she did was unacceptable--SHE'S the adult and there are more appropriate ways to express that level of frustration than to take it out on a child. I would ask her to apologize--or at the very least to make it very clear to the child that she "got angry" but would NEVER ban him from visiting--that she loves his visits--and him! And if she didn't do that? It would be a cold day in you know where before I'd subject my child to that sort of treatment! I mean, after all, she upset your child's sense of security and acceptance over FISH?? Kids are NOTORIOUS for changing tastes--and not wanting to try anything that looks, smells or tastes different!
 In the meantime, I think just reassuring your son will be helpful. Tell him that even adults say things sometimes that they don't mean and that his grandma shouldn't have said that because it wasn't true.
 Hope the rest of your week is better! Lori

Hey Lori, glad to see you post, I"ve been thinking of you.  I totally agree with you, "BUT"  my mom sound just like Jessica's grandmother, we, and I mean, me and my siblings and neices and nephews, all of us at one time or another, had talked with my mom over different things she does or says.  ie:  boy, your getting fat! .... anyway,  she don't get it. she has been doing it for years, and continues to do it.  WE all, have grown up with it, and all have issues, but, she still does it.  Sometimes, Its just best to walk away.  she is old now, and it always gets everyone sad, or crying and trying to make a point.  NOt worth it.  Just walk away,  and yes, He is a little boy, but someday soon, he will understand.  having the family standing in a circle arguing, isn't much better.  But, that is just my opinion and experience... of course every situation is different.  come back soon toots, I miss you..  Hugs, CHeryl

Hello Lori,  I dont beleive that I have ever met you,  Nice to meet you!   Anyways... I do understand that it is  abuse.... But like cheryl said that is the way she is.... WHen I was pregnant with my son she wanted me to have an abortion... then she didnt come and see him when i had him nor for like 9 months after that...  She states that she loves him soo much but I just think that shes getting to old to care for him.... about a year after i had him... his father and I split up and went our separate ways,.... had custody hearing and all that he remarried and befriended his new wife cause i could never trust him to do what needed to be done...  then he divorced and I met my hunny... Paul is not his father but he does his best to be there for him... but my son being like me is sort of a loaner... and would rather do things alone or with SS stepson)   I mean this kid has gone through enough... no dad now no great grandma.... My mom isnt there either....  I just wanna move far away from everyone and never look back  My grandma never apologizes to anyone and i dont think that she ever will...  She had done soo much when i needed her to get me out of the house with my sons father (or should i say sperm donnor)  I just dont know....

Thanks cheryl and lori for all your help...

You're welcome, hon. I hope it gets better for you and your little guy! And Cheryl? I understand what you are saying... Some folks are pretty stubborn and we DO have to "pick our battles" but I tend to be especially sensitive when it comes to childrens well-being so I guess it just made me sad that this little boy had to ask for reassurance as to whether or not he could go visit his grandma again!
 When are you in Lewiston next, Cheryl? Maybe we can get together for coffee? Let me know how your schedule looks! Hugs, Lori

right now I don't know when I'm going in next and will have time to hang out.  I will have to get back to you,  If you pm me your phone number, I will call if I do go in.  I do need to go in for a few groceries, maybe on Friday,  I do go in early tho, prob. around 9-10ish, but my DH might have Friday off, so I won't be possitive, since he wants to hang out with me if he has the day off.  I'll call you when I'm avail.  Cheryl

My mother is the same way!!  She has a fit if my son puts his ears underwater when he is in the tub!!!  And she did the food thing to me too when I was younger......your not alone, I feel for your little man!!

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AMEN TOO THAT ONE!!!!