3+ YEARS POST-OP & A HUGE NSV!!!
Although the rapid weight loss for which rny is known stopped long ago, I continue to amaze myself.
Since July 2007, I'd been dipping my toes into the dating pool. Can I just say it needs some algacide???? Anyway, I've met some losers - and trust me, they're not OUR kind of losers - some partial keepers, and like the t-shirt says, Mr. Rude, Mr. Cheap and Mr. Married. I've also met Mr. Right Now, but not really any Mr. Rights.
I take a break from the online scene every so often, particularly when I start seeing the same pictures with different names - then you know they're scammers!! So just about two weeks ago, I decided to give another site a try. I immediately got several hits, weeded through them, and started communicating with two different men. Both seemed really nice and I exchanged emails for a bit with both. From the beginning, both focused on the sexual aspect of a relationship, asking what size bra I wore, what sexual preferences I had, etc. The one got so bad that I warned him a couple of times that he was gonna freak me out and make me run if he didn't reign it in. The other wasn't quite so pushy. So I made arrangements to meet Mark tonight, and on Monday, I got an email from him asking if I'd be wearing something which would afford him "the right view." Ummm......helloooo? I responded back telling him the only thing he needed to see was my enchanting personality on the first date. I then told him AGAIN that he needed to stop, that I wasn't interested in just a hook-up, and that I wanted to get to know him first. Every day was a little more of the same until yesterday, he called me the lady of his life. Finally, I told him I was sorry, but that his "too much, too soon" attitude was just TOO MUCH of a turn-off for me and wished him luck with his search. WHEW!!! At the same time, I told the other guy that I was no longer interested either, and closed my profile.
My long, drawn out point is that pre-op, I would've glommed onto Mr. Too and perhaps settled into a relationship that wasn't healthy and not what I needed or wanted. I'm so much better than that now, and although I would dearly love to have a man who is both my best friend AND my lover, and yes, I think he's out there, I am too good of a person to settle. I AM willing to wait and accept ONLY the best, because that's all I'm willing to give and receive!!!
You have NO idea what an internal victory this is for me. I continue to amaze myself!!!
Thanks for letting me share!!!!
Tia
Since July 2007, I'd been dipping my toes into the dating pool. Can I just say it needs some algacide???? Anyway, I've met some losers - and trust me, they're not OUR kind of losers - some partial keepers, and like the t-shirt says, Mr. Rude, Mr. Cheap and Mr. Married. I've also met Mr. Right Now, but not really any Mr. Rights.
I take a break from the online scene every so often, particularly when I start seeing the same pictures with different names - then you know they're scammers!! So just about two weeks ago, I decided to give another site a try. I immediately got several hits, weeded through them, and started communicating with two different men. Both seemed really nice and I exchanged emails for a bit with both. From the beginning, both focused on the sexual aspect of a relationship, asking what size bra I wore, what sexual preferences I had, etc. The one got so bad that I warned him a couple of times that he was gonna freak me out and make me run if he didn't reign it in. The other wasn't quite so pushy. So I made arrangements to meet Mark tonight, and on Monday, I got an email from him asking if I'd be wearing something which would afford him "the right view." Ummm......helloooo? I responded back telling him the only thing he needed to see was my enchanting personality on the first date. I then told him AGAIN that he needed to stop, that I wasn't interested in just a hook-up, and that I wanted to get to know him first. Every day was a little more of the same until yesterday, he called me the lady of his life. Finally, I told him I was sorry, but that his "too much, too soon" attitude was just TOO MUCH of a turn-off for me and wished him luck with his search. WHEW!!! At the same time, I told the other guy that I was no longer interested either, and closed my profile.
My long, drawn out point is that pre-op, I would've glommed onto Mr. Too and perhaps settled into a relationship that wasn't healthy and not what I needed or wanted. I'm so much better than that now, and although I would dearly love to have a man who is both my best friend AND my lover, and yes, I think he's out there, I am too good of a person to settle. I AM willing to wait and accept ONLY the best, because that's all I'm willing to give and receive!!!
You have NO idea what an internal victory this is for me. I continue to amaze myself!!!
Thanks for letting me share!!!!
Tia
Hey g/f!!! Good to see you!!! But this means you're lurking again!! Get thee butt back to this board!!!!
Funny, I've not found much on Meetup that interests me, but I do check it!!
I'm very familiar with the site you sent me as well as another called, I think, DONTDATEHIMGIRL!!! They can be very useful!!!
Sad, huh?? Said your sister in disgusted singledom!!!!!!
Hugs, miss ya!!!
Tia
Funny, I've not found much on Meetup that interests me, but I do check it!!
I'm very familiar with the site you sent me as well as another called, I think, DONTDATEHIMGIRL!!! They can be very useful!!!
Sad, huh?? Said your sister in disgusted singledom!!!!!!
Hugs, miss ya!!!
Tia
WOOT WOOT!! You ROCK Tia! I am so proud of you for calling off the date tonight based on him being so pushy. You know that you don't need a man in your life to validate who you are or your self-worth. The right one will come along... Just love being by yourself right now and make THEM work for YOU! You deserve it gf!!!
hugs,
Ang
hugs,
Ang
Congrstulations Tia for developing the courage to be true to yourself and what is right for you first. This is something that many people struggle with all of their lives. You have worked very hard to get to this point. I am proud of you! (I am also sending out the good vibes, that Mr. Right makes an appearance soon!)
Debbie
Debbie
Thanks, Ang!!!! I am SO proud of myself for this - ALMOST more than I am of the weight I've lost. I am my OWN worst enemy, as most of us are, and in the past, I've just been happy for ANY attention.
No more!! I MUCH prefer the company of wonderful friends to that of a not-so-wonderful-right-for-me man!!!!!
Love ya!!!
Tia
No more!! I MUCH prefer the company of wonderful friends to that of a not-so-wonderful-right-for-me man!!!!!
Love ya!!!
Tia
WTG my friend: If it was right you would know it. I too "settled"
HELL 2 THE YEAH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! That is AWESOME! Just remember to stay SAFE! When you first meet someone new please PLEASE let someone know where you will be and have them call your cell like every 20-30 min to make sure you are OKAY! Also MEET IN A PUBLIC PLACE and KEEP YOUR GUARD UP! Ok...im done being Mom. LOL But just make sure you are safe. When the right guy comes along honey YOU WILL JUST KNOW! DO NOT SETTLE>>>>NO NO NO!! And NO MARRIED MEN! YOU DONT WANT OR NEED THAT! YOUR BETTER THEN THAT!
Good luck I will be waiting up for you to get in hahahaha KIDDING! ~Jilly~
Good luck I will be waiting up for you to get in hahahaha KIDDING! ~Jilly~
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