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I have not went forward with my surgery. I got scaried to do it. Has anyone else gotten scared and put off their surgery and then got the surgery and was glad they did it ???

Belinda, My surgery date isn't till nov. 29th. With all the negative stuff in the news lately it is enough to scare people. It has made me want to find out more and more about the surgery. There is so many positive post on the message boards that at this time i think i still can go thru with the surgery. What did you Dr. say? What exactly scared you the most about the surgery? Pain, failing, not being able to eat without getting sick, death or all of above. Just wondering to compare to my fears. Will be watching for people to reply to your post as their answers may help me to. Good Luck D.

I drink ALOT of diet coke and i have a BIG sweet tooth. So i guess i'm afraid i can't give those things up. I am also scared of all the testing. Iam not scared of the surgery. I have been through alot of surgeries. I had 3 c-sections and a couple other surgeries. I also fear that i won't be able to keep the weight off once i have stopped losing. But i'm really tired of being super fat, breathing hard every time i walk from the house to the car, tired of no energy, tired of clothes fitting too tight, I could go on and on as to why i want this surgery. Waiting to hear from more people to post . Belinda

Hi Ladies As a pretty compliant post op now 2 yrs out, maybe I can calm some fears and if I can, answer a few questions. By the time I had my surgery I was physically ill, emotionally at the lowest point of my life...I was so ready to have this surgery. One thing I had made up my mind was that this time it would work..and I would do anything to get healthy again. By using that first year as a new beginning I learned to eat alot of healthy foods, make good food choices..and to get my butt out for walks and the biggie..to change my entire lifestyle. It didn't all happen over night but it did happen, today I am still working on a new lifestyle and looking for my place in this world..at the prime age of 50 starting all over is much scarier than facing the surgery.. My suggestion is to get your head into the game, this isn't a physical thing, I treat my eating disorder as an addiction..I ask myself if what I am eating has nutritional value, am I getting in all my protein today? Am I meeting my vitiman requirements and mostly, what I am doing to help myself emotionally.. I have a few exercises that I use when things get me down or I feel I am spiraling out of control...It pulls me up by my boot straps and gets me on the right track again, nothing like kicking yourself in the pants!! I am glad to see that you ladies don't look at this surgery as an easy fix..it is not..There are risk that I am sure your surgeon will go over with you, but then again there are always risk with any type of surgery..also,it takes work to make a life style change that you will have to live with the rest of your life, that lifestyle change has been a blessing to me..For the first time in years I love my life!!..and ladies from one WLS patient to another..it is well worth the ride!! I work 2 days a week with a surgeon in N. Ky- as his patient advocate. He has taught me so much about the surgery, as I go in with him when during the procedures, and keep the family informed during. I love what I am doing and if I can help patients through this time of transition, it's an extra boost for me as well, it keeps me accountable and on the straight and narrow..and reminds me every day what I went through the surgery in the first place! Don't get me wrong I fall off the wagon from time to time. It's crazy to think it would never happen, but because I was so compliant that first year I am able to sit back and reevaluate what I am doing wrong bringing myself back to reality..reality that I never want to be where I came from again!.... If I can help you with any questions or just be an online support buddy..email me direct, anytime. Brenda [email protected]

Hi Ladies As a pretty compliant post op now 2 yrs out, maybe I can calm some fears and if I can, answer a few questions. By the time I had my surgery I was physically ill, emotionally at the lowest point of my life...I was so ready to have this surgery. One thing I had made up my mind was that this time it would work..and I would do anything to get healthy again. By using that first year as a new beginning I learned to eat alot of healthy foods, make good food choices..and to get my butt out for walks and the biggie..to change my entire lifestyle. It didn't all happen over night but it did happen, today I am still working on a new lifestyle and looking for my place in this world..at the prime age of 50 starting all over is much scarier than facing the surgery.. My suggestion is to get your head into the game, this isn't a physical thing, I treat my eating disorder as an addiction..I ask myself if what I am eating has nutritional value, am I getting in all my protein today? Am I meeting my vitiman requirements and mostly, what I am doing to help myself emotionally.. I have a few exercises that I use when things get me down or I feel I am spiraling out of control...It pulls me up by my boot straps and gets me on the right track again, nothing like kicking yourself in the pants!! I am glad to see that you ladies don't look at this surgery as an easy fix..it is not..There are risk that I am sure your surgeon will go over with you, but then again there are always risk with any type of surgery..also,it takes work to make a life style change that you will have to live with the rest of your life, that lifestyle change has been a blessing to me..For the first time in years I love my life!!..and ladies from one WLS patient to another..it is well worth the ride!! I work 2 days a week with a surgeon in N. Ky- as his patient advocate. He has taught me so much about the surgery, as I go in with him when during the procedures, as well as talking to the family during the operation. I love what I am doing and if I can help patients through this time of transition, it's an extra boost for me as well, it keeps me accountable and on the straight and narrow..and reminds me every day why I went through the surgery in the first place! Don't get me wrong, I fall off the wagon from time to time. It's crazy to think it would never happen, but because I was so compliant that first year I am able to sit back and reevaluate what I am doing wrong bringing myself back to reality..reality that I never want to be where I came from again!.... If I can help you with any questions or just be an online support buddy..email me direct, anytime. Brenda [email protected]

oooppss this duplicated and I am sorry..I looked after I submitted but it didn't show up..so I did another.. today here they both are. sorry bout that

I initially intended to have RNY surgery and like you I got really scared the more I looked into it. When I first looked into the surgery I didn't care what happened to me, I was so depressed. If it killed me that would have been better than the life I was living. But when I had an option for getting healthy I started feeling less depressed and then realized that I was using surgery as a way to punish myself. I had to spend a good bit of time sorting through these feelings. Everyone is different. For me, the band was a better option and I wasn't very scared at all going into that surgery. If you can figure out exactly what you're worried about, maybe there is an alternate form of surgery that will be less risky in those areas and you will be able to go through with that instead. It's important to know just exactly WHY you are overweight and what your own issues are. Then you can choose a surgery that will best address those issues. I'm very happy I changed and even if I never lost another pound with my band it would be worth it just not to be constantly hungry. That was my biggest problem. I ate all the time because I was always hungry no matter what I ate. Peace, Kristina 500/413/199