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I have been married 32 years and If one of us left every time we "lost that loveing feeling" I would have put in a revolving door... Marriage is hard.. it is work! It is not for the weak at heart. Marriage is two prople working together to adjust to the changes in our lives and standing together against the forces that come against us.. We ALL say stupid things . You are still healing and not SLEEPING in the same bed right now.. The distance does something to a man.. Like you have defended your husband, is a good man... you are a wonderful lady.. Life changes puts a strain on a marriage.. If you love him fight for him.. Tell him you are just not ready to give up...Unless he has a filly already on the side you don't know about... He may just be needing a little attention... Heck no man can live happily with NO SEX... sorry Dan... but most men are just not built that way...and NO SEX does something to them... makes them feel insecure... Remember anything worth keeping is worth fighting for.. I dont mean kicking punching and screaming.. I mean nurturing, praying and serving eachother. Making eachother feel special.. Good luck, Love Linda

the lack of intimacy is not on my side... my husband is the one who does not desire intimacy it has been a while but I am sticking it out and not giing up I am going to wait atleast six months to see if things work themselves out because I do love him.. I love him so much it hurts.....

I know exactly what you mean. In my case it's been both of us lacking after 18 years together. He has been busy with other things and I wait at home for him to want to do something with me. I didn't say anything about and I wished that I had. Then when he wants to be intimate I "push" him away. He said it all started right after my surgery, 6 months ago. I have to admit I haven't wanted to be very intimate at times because I am dealing with alot that has gone on with my body since then. I'm still getting used to the many changes that occur. We both have some things to work on and he has told me the flame isn't completely out yet and that gives me hope. Please, please talk with your husband. I was told by others that my husband may be having some insecurities that I will leave him because I've lost so much weight and I look like a different person, but I'm still the same inside and still have feelings for only him. Oh, I've thought about "being" with Johnny Depp but we probably don't have too much of a chance! Hang in there and don't give up on. He may be having those insecurities as well but I've been told guys won't admit to those kinds of things. Take care, Regina