Fights and missing a loved one
DH and I fought yesterday after work. What they want one person to do is impossible, and I am just not happy about it. If I don't go out to the cemetary once a day, I feel awful. I think I really need to talk to someone about my mother's death. I feel as if I didn't take good care of her even though everyone says I did.
Sorry for the vent and rambling. I am tired, and having neck and shoulder issues again.
Dee
Sorry for the vent and rambling. I am tired, and having neck and shoulder issues again.
Dee
Dee
You have to do what you need to do. I wish I could visit my parents graves. They are buried 8 hours away so it is rarely that I get there. I do feel a closeness when I am there, so I can understand the need to be there.
Work will adjust as you get the hang of it. Give it a chance. When things are new, it can seem overwhelming and impossible.
Keep in mind, you were the daughter that provided the care for your mom. I dont recall you talking about your siblings helping out. I am sure you gave your mom very loving care. Dont feel guilty about what you did not do. We are human and can only do so much.
It might help to find a greif support group. I found one after my dad died and it really helped me.
You have to do what you need to do. I wish I could visit my parents graves. They are buried 8 hours away so it is rarely that I get there. I do feel a closeness when I am there, so I can understand the need to be there.
Work will adjust as you get the hang of it. Give it a chance. When things are new, it can seem overwhelming and impossible.
Keep in mind, you were the daughter that provided the care for your mom. I dont recall you talking about your siblings helping out. I am sure you gave your mom very loving care. Dont feel guilty about what you did not do. We are human and can only do so much.
It might help to find a greif support group. I found one after my dad died and it really helped me.
Cat Lady
BIG HUGS to you Dee.
I agree with Nancy, but just wanted to chime in and help you feel less alone.
She is right----give the job a chance. New habits take at least 3 weeks to establish. All new things can seem overwhelming, take it one step at at time.
Greif counseling or a support group are also wonderful suggestions because WE and all your other friends can TELL you that you did all you could, but you may need more "professional" advice or others that are going through the same issues to help you sort through it and come out on the other side.
Hang in there and today is a NEW day.
Love ya,
Dawn
I agree with Nancy, but just wanted to chime in and help you feel less alone.
She is right----give the job a chance. New habits take at least 3 weeks to establish. All new things can seem overwhelming, take it one step at at time.
Greif counseling or a support group are also wonderful suggestions because WE and all your other friends can TELL you that you did all you could, but you may need more "professional" advice or others that are going through the same issues to help you sort through it and come out on the other side.
Hang in there and today is a NEW day.
Love ya,
Dawn
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Dawn
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Dee, If the job is more then you bargained for, step away from it. It might be that it is to close to what you were doing for your mom. My parents have been dead for a long time, and I still "talk " to them. You probably would benefit from talking to a grief councilor. You won't recover from your Mom's death in a day, but, I can tell you, you will.
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LISA
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LISA
Dee,
My mom died when I was 10. It does get easier in time. Even though you miss her very much, she isnt suffering and is in a better place. Just remember she is looking down at you and smiling that you took such good care of her at her time of need. Just remember that you did what you set out to do for her. I also agree with Lisa greif counsling does a world of good.
Carla
My mom died when I was 10. It does get easier in time. Even though you miss her very much, she isnt suffering and is in a better place. Just remember she is looking down at you and smiling that you took such good care of her at her time of need. Just remember that you did what you set out to do for her. I also agree with Lisa greif counsling does a world of good.
Carla
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